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Anxiousboarderline

695d

So I’m bisexual and in a long term AMAZING relationship with my boyfriend. Befor I met him I become friends w this girl (also lgbt) and always had like a little crush on her but never told her or initiated anything because I love my boyfriend and want to be with him for the rest of my life, well yesterday her and I were hanging out and we got drunk. She confessed that since we met she’s liked me and told me she wanted to have s*x w me. She was very persistent and even tried making moves on me knowing I have a boyfriend. She’s polyamorous and has a boyfriend who is okay with her being with other people. My boyfriend is the typical “I’m fine with it as long as I can watch” but I’m very uncomfortable about it. It also made me really confused because a girl has never made moves on me like that. I love being friends with her but after yesterday idk what to do. I told my boyfriend and he said “well, I trust you but I am a little uncomfortable about you guys being friends”. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have advice???

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    • suppah

      695d

      Yes and if you love him you'll end the friendship with her. Its no hard feelings but your boyfriend already told you he's uncomfortable with it. Respect his honesty and his wishes

    • ohnoabanjo

      695d

      Oh my goodness I'm so sorry this happened! I've had similar things happen to me. It can be difficult to resist especially if you had a crush on this girl! I applaud your honesty with your boyfriend. That's going to be your best strategy. Things get messy when things are hidden. Speaking as someone on the other side, I know that no matter what happens, I'd appreciate the honesty and openness.

    • suppah

      695d

      Yes and if you love him you'll end the friendship with her. Its no hard feelings but your boyfriend already told you he's uncomfortable with it. Respect his honesty and his wishes

      • EggyTime

        695d

        @suppah I don't think this is fair, the boyfriend says he's a *little* uncomfortable, this isn't an "if you actually care about him you'll cut ties with a long term friend," and if it were it'd be kinda manipulative. They've obviously talked about monoamory/polyamory before. The priority here is that this girl was making moves on the OP and she wasn't receptive, so there needs to be a strong line in the sand drawn. Like, "I love being friends with you, but what happened made me uncomfortable and it can't happen again." Easy. If they make excuses and try to push the topic that's hella gross and at that time the friendship would be terminated.

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