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Afraid of Judgement for Ex-Husband's Actions

Mazzyllene

539d

I am afraid of my recovery and what it means in regards to talking about my ex husband. People ask about him and, I tend to just end up saying I don't like talking about it. Which I don't, but the truth is I'm so afraid of being judged because he's a monster. but I know I have to work through everything he did to me. More importantly, what he did to everyone else that I blame myself for. Hell, I blame myself for even having ever loved him.

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    • skooshy

      521d

      @Mazzyllene I do understand that it isn't that simple. One of my best friends was mentally and financially abused by her ex spouse. It was years before she left. She didn't feel strong enough, that she could do anything without him doing it for her and she never had the support to leave him. Even when we made a plan for her to leave and what she would do after it was over a year before she did. They have been divorced for two years now and she has a hard time talking to him when it comes to her kids. No I have never been in that situation and I can never fully understand just what you have gone through. Just know that from my perspective, you are a strong person to live through what you did and still come out of it alive.

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    • katitomato

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      You can never blame yourself for loving toxic people. Everyone has good and bad in them and everyone makes choices that hurt other people at some point. But when it’s consistent and even traumatizing sometimes, it’s important to learn from those behaviors and red flags so you don’t repeat your mistakes. Best of luck to you and your healing journey!

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    • xGutterGlitter82x

      539d

      Hey, I know how you feel.. It took me soo long to recover from my ex-husband's abuse.. That it's still hard for me to talk about it.. And it's been years! But I'm getting better.. What helps IS to talk about it believe it or not! If you need to talk, just message me and we can confide in our own recovery together. 🙏💕

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    • skooshy

      539d

      You should never be judged for things HE did. You are domestic abuse survivor and that makes you just as innocent as the other people he hurt. As for you loving him, we can't help who we fall in love with when they show us what they want us to see. Abusers and such, hide what they are until is too late and you don't know how to leave. Just remember, no matter what happened you made it through and that makes unbelievably strong. I am so very proud of you for leaving and choosing yourself (and you kids if you have any) when it came down to it.

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      • Mazzyllene

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        @skooshy I wish it could be that simple. I actually choose to stay for my kids knowing .. but the older two aren't mine legally. His first wife left the kids with him. I raised them. He used them to keep me there. And I wod do it again for them everytime. I just wish I had been stronger.

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        • skooshy

          521d

          @Mazzyllene I do understand that it isn't that simple. One of my best friends was mentally and financially abused by her ex spouse. It was years before she left. She didn't feel strong enough, that she could do anything without him doing it for her and she never had the support to leave him. Even when we made a plan for her to leave and what she would do after it was over a year before she did. They have been divorced for two years now and she has a hard time talking to him when it comes to her kids. No I have never been in that situation and I can never fully understand just what you have gone through. Just know that from my perspective, you are a strong person to live through what you did and still come out of it alive.

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    • IndigoButterfly

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      I understand where you are coming from, but we all make mistakes for being human. It's how, what, where and when we learn that makes the difference.

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