Feeling Betrayed by Friends After Sister's Memorial

ultimately, your friends were being teenagers about an adult problem. that's to be expected. it's very likely they actually couldn't get refunds on anything, most reservations are partially or completely nonrefundable. in the event you cancel or don't show up, they still made money, and that's how you run a business. your sister's death was probably already past the date where they could've gotten a refund, if they could get one at all. it was just unfortunate timing. this may be hard to hear, but they're also not obligated to attend your sister's memorial service. she wasn't their sister. they probably didn't even really know her. I know your sister was your entire world, but she wasn't the world to everyone. there are other ways they could've supported you outside of attending a funeral, but you've burned those bridges now and you have to face the consequences of that. no one did anything wrong, you're just still kids and reacted in a way that reflects that

there's 4 homecomings and only one of your sister. and that's that.

I lost my cousin on the 13th of September who was not like an older brother but a parent to me. He was there for me when my parents abused me, he was the only one who understood and cared. You’re not alone. I feel your pain and although it is so so hard, we’re living on because that’s what they would want from us. ❤️

I know all to well how losing people, pets, relationships, etc can be soul crushing and leave you so empty and hopeless. I know. But you can't make others chose you sadly. They hade plans and yes, it is upsetting but that is their choice there was nothing you could do. You invited them and they chose not to because they had plans and probably got everything all nice for the- what was it? Homecoming? Anyways, yes we would have liked them to be there but they are not required but you should do what you feel is best for you and how you morally feel. If you say if you don't pick me, snip snip. That is all on you but I suggest having a heart to heart with possibly a mediator who doesn't pick sides.

please do not comment on this post if you do not understand what it feels like to lose a loved one because it is an unimaginable pain and you can never image how it makes you feel

I personally think it’s touchy but I’d agree with your friends more-so. Yes, they should support you but a lot of people have hard times with funerals and things of that nature. I can’t stand going to them because of how depressing they are, even if it’s someone I loved. Your friends can have those boundaries and they’re allowed to their own activities. This is something they had planned and were probably excited for. Obviously it’s hard to know the whole story from my perspective but I think if this is the only instance, maybe it should be looked past for now. They don’t owe you a sacrifice of their own happiness and well-being’s. They can be good friends but still have boundaries. I have friends who I’ve refused to spend time with due to my mental health not able to handle it and they’ve always respected it.