Struggling with Emotional Issues in a Long Distance Relationship

Maybe you need to go to a counselor together so you can discuss how you feel openly

I know he wants to make it work, I think couples therapy is the best idea honestly. I see that working for the long run. It'll give us both insights that we need.

I would recommend couple counseling where you can both here each other’s side and understand each other better and it would be moderated and controlled so there isn’t escalation etc and if there are symptoms coming from a disorder involved makes sure that counselor is an expert in it so they can explain it to you more which may help you better understand him but also help him with coping skills and treating it so ur relationship may become better. But the therapist will always try to save the relationship but if it’s completely dead from the beginning they’ll be honest about how they feel sometimes because you both have to want to put ur all into it and if one doesn’t want to or isn’t ready then....there isn’t much the thereabouts can do yet except maybe try to make the person realize whether that be you or him

We were long distance for 4 years. Then 8 months ago we moved in with eachother. We had been visting back and forth throughout the 4 years long distance. We didn't have any of those issues while online since obviously you don't see everything about a person when dating online. We moved in together and things were going really well, there were adjustments that we made and everything, we adopted a dog together. It's just issues that have compounded that we need to work on. Primarily communication. But like I said, he's going to start therapy and hopefully after a few group sessions we'll be on our way back on track.

wait what do you mean in real life, are you guys long distance?

8 months into IRL dating is early to me. It's not long enough to get to know eachother like that, at least in my opinion. And yeah, I get it. But he also needs to understand that he should be putting some effort into researching anxiety and it's effects. He agreed to going to therapy, which is great, I think that will help him a lot to understand.

lol well I thought you said you’ve been dating for years and it’s been the same. You just need to understand his perspective, he can’t read minds

He does the same thing, he's always there for me and tries to help the best he can. He tries his best to understand but it's really hard to understand it from an outside perspective. Breaking up should not be an option this early in the game. I know we'll work through it, I just need advice on how.

well if he doesn’t listen and try to understand how it is for you then maybe you are not right for each other. I feel that way with my boyfriend sometimes but he is always there for me and tries to understand even though he hasn’t felt the way I am feeling now.

I've had that conversation several times, it reverts back to the way things are every time

I understand this so much. You need to sit down and have a conversation with him and let him know that he can talk to you and make sure you are telling him everything.