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this is going to sound kinda weird but I think I've been traumatized out of being able to cry unless it's a very specific case. I've been through absolute hell and I have no doubt I'm scarred in ways that most adults I know wouldn't be able to imagine... but now I'll go through a life altering situation and just can't cry even when I try. even when I want to. I'll get that lump in my throat and stinging in my eyes but tears will never come. it drives me insane bc I want to feel better when shitty things happen but it just.. doesn't work. can I get any help with this?? am I broken??
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You aren't broken, crying can be a very vulnerable thing for most people, and if you're currently dealing with really stressful situation and unable to cry it is most likely because of a trauma response. Your body and brain are going through a lot, and it's reminding it of when you previously were, so typically the first response is to shut down certain bits to try and do what it thinks will keep you safe. Your instincts are not to put you in a vulnerable position when you're in panic mode & you can be in that state without realizing it. My advice is to try and make your surroundings feel safe if you can, this happened to me for about 4 months a while ago and it was really rough, I hope this was worded so it made sense and at least helps a little bit. <3
i will say, it doesn’t make you strange or bad or broken for not crying as much as other people do. i also am autistic and i have just as much trouble crying, but without the trauma. if you didn’t know, it is very common for autistic people to either be overly-expressive or be rather monotonous when it comes to emotion. i tend to jump to each side of the spectrum depending on the circumstance, but when it comes to genuinely sad things, like funerals, i am always one of the few to never cry. people process grief differently sometimes and there’s no harm in that!
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@cypresz I believe myself to be autistic as well so I guess that makes sense?? But I know that some cases of it happening it's because of my PTSD
You definitely aren’t broken. It’s pretty common for those who have experienced trauma in their past to experience this. I’m right there with you, for me it’s because throughout my life it has become a automatic response to lock those feelings in a box and not let them out. It is hard work to undo these things, but not impossible🌻
@gatoraid that makes sense that my body doesn't want to show external signs of being vulnerable. Thank you for the kind words
I doubt that you are broken. Given that you feel the emotions and other physical sensatIons associated with crying, could it be an issue with your tear ducts? It may sound weird but I remember seeing medication for that advertised on TV. Might be worth asking your doctor. Hope this helps ❤️
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