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Traumatized by Dad's Suicide Attempt After Abusive Relationship

Emily55

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Do you think my dad saying that he attempted to off himself is traumatizing? Or could cause BPD? This also happened after a split of a very controlling and emotionally abusive relationship along with threatening one. This all happened when I was 15-16 .

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    • KabdiSystem

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      @Emily55 lacking large and unusual amounts of memory is almost always a sign of trauma, so it sounds extremely reasonable and expected that you would have bpd

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    • Starlightie

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      You may have a subtype known as Quiet BPD. This presents with the same symptoms as BPD but internalized rather than externalized. It's much harder to get recognized by Drs bc of the chronic masking. It also can cause serious imposter syndrome bc you look around at others who have more externalized subtypes and think to yourself "well I'm definitely not as bad as that so there's no way I could have BPD", when really it's just that you experience the symptoms privately in your head rather than present them in more obvious and noticable ways. To be diagnosed with BPD an individual must fit at least 5 of the 9 major criteria. So just because you don't fit all 9, doesn't mean you don't fit enough to have the disorder. Definitely talk to a mental health provider about your concerns if you relate to anything mentioned in this article: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/borderline-personality-disorder.htm

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    • KabdiSystem

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      Bpd is usually caused by invalidation/neglect during early childhood so it shapes how you view all attachments going forward, as you have no other experiences to offset the pain or create alternative patterns. I saw in a comment you said you've been invalidated, so while this trauma could reinforce negative coping mechanisms of bpd, it likely isn't the catalyst, since usually it starts pretty early, at least as far as I've ever heard from research and the medical professionals in my life. Bpd can start presenting more heavily later on though, since when you are little in those environments your reactions can seem more or less appropriate, since your mind built them to survive, and especially for a child, but as you age it becomes more out of place and may no longer suit your enviroment.

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      • Emily55

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        @KabdiSystem thank you for your input I have a hard time remembering stuff I just know when I was 8 my parents divorced and my mental health has been shit fire since and things kept getting worse and my mom neglected my anxiety issues .

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        • KabdiSystem

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          @Emily55 lacking large and unusual amounts of memory is almost always a sign of trauma, so it sounds extremely reasonable and expected that you would have bpd

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    • lyashnx

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      if you didnt have the means or support system to help process those traumas, it very well could have. It can be hard to pinpoint exact causes though. And you'll probably just reopen old wounds by trying to.

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    • darkwitch

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      something similar happened to me. my dad told me he would kill himself after i left the family at 12/13. before that he said "i am disowning you like you disowned me. you are no longer my child." i now have borderline personality disorder.

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      • Emily55

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        @darkwitch jeez I’m very sorry to hear that , that’s horrible I have no words. My parents never straight out said that I mean maybe ? They have invalidated me and my moms called me worthless and to fuck off etc. moms unpredictable and a functional alcoholic and pops pills. Dad is selfish barely saw him, but when I did he acted all high and mighty and talked shit about my mom etc. I mean I could go on. Even tho this professional said I had it she screened me once, I kinda doubt boderline personality disorder. But I do have symptoms of it that’s for sure. Thank you for sharing and once again I’m really sorry. But I know my words won’t do much.

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        • darkwitch

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          @Emily55 i doubted it at first too. i had such a bad perception of it. i ended up in a hospital because of it. but trust me, it is better to accept it all together instead of trying to fight it. my dad often shat on my mom left and right as well, my mom was an alcoholic( which btw, enduring substance abuse also causes bpd ).

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    • asvprina

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      i would definitely be traumatized by that lmao i don’t know if something could cause bpd i don’t know exactly how that works but definitely traumatizing

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      • Emily55

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        @asvprina my psychiatrist said childhood trauma causes it and I’m trying to fit the pieces together but I know that’s super complex and hard.

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        • asvprina

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          @Emily55 i’m sure you’ll get it just keep workin at it at your own pace ya know

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      • darkwitch

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        @asvprina bpd is caused by any sort of trauma, whether it be sexual, emotional, or physical, especially abuse. also caused by genetic factors.

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        • asvprina

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          @darkwitch okay good to know thank you that explains a lot😂

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