Dealing with Grief and Depression: Is it Normal?

Your husband is being insensitive about what you have been through. I’m praying for you and your family. I’m also praying for your husband and health.

Your way of grieving is unique to you. It would be more helpful for you to speak with a counselor who understands grief. Husbands mean well but sometimes they may speak very thoughtlessly. He can’t possibly understand how you feel because these were people you were close with. I would focus on getting help from a professional so I could start healing rather than what your husband says. If it were as easy as “getting over it” we wouldn’t need doctors to teach us how to heal properly. Many prayers for you in your healthy journey to healing ❤️‍🩹

I totally understand. Been in that situation. You will never be able to just get over it. It just takes time to get easier, but never completely. At least that's how it is for me. My mom passed in 2009, and my dad in 2020, til this day I have break downs. I just don't have as many. When people tell me to just get over it and move on, they normally don't like my response to them. People greive and heal at their own pace. It does help to talk to people who been through it. Even if it's a stranger. Just do you, and not how or others tell you to do. It may take a while to find that it will get somewhat easier. But do look into starting depression meds, if not already, they helped me.

Sound like you need to establish boundaries where you allow people to tell you. Think about what you can do yourself first.

Hardworkingnurse. Those relatives that passed, were they from his side of your family?

My husband says to get over it and move on too

Are you getting help for your depression and anxiety? Counseling and meds?? That will help a lot. If u are on meds, perhaps try a different kind or combination. Treatment resistant depression is a real thing. As for your husband, he just doesn't get it. Do realize that it is difficult for those that love us to deal with seeing struggle. He may feel frustrated because he doesn't know how to help you. Therapy for you is an absolute must. Big hugs 🫂. There is hope with help.

❤️ A person who says get over it and move on will never understand

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