Dealing with a Partner's Intermittent Personality Disorder

I’m scared. I think My husband of ten years may have intermittent personality disorder or even bpd. These episodes are so infrequent lately that I brush them off bc the good times are good. But today he woke me up screaming about a mess I had left in the kitchen. Said my Illnesses were all in my head and I’m just lazy and was never taught self discipline. That he doesn’t need help I do. He started kicking shit and his energy scared my dog into my lap and now he’s in the bathroom locked door as I sit here in disbelief unsure of what happened and what to do. As usual with this bc it does happen sometimes. How do I handle someone like that? It’s like he hates me