Dealing with the Death of a Loved One

I lost my grandpa in 2019 due to a rapid cancer and the best thing that helped me was think that it happened for a reason, I'm not sure if you're religious but for me, God had a plan and it was his time so now he is in a better place and he's not suffering anymore, he's finally happy and his spirit is with everyone he loved so he's always with me. I hope this helps 💕

i lost my mom at 17 years old, i am now 21. it never gets better, just easier. dms are open :)

If you have a chance write down your favorite memories you had together, the memories will fade so if you want to cherish the good times while the memories are near and dear to your heart write them down because over time memories fade, if you write them down it helps you keep the good times with you.

Grieve. I cried all I needed and then remember the happy times, cry some more, and then realize they are now watching over you so you don't want to cry infront of them

talking about it with people who loved that person as much as you . my grandpa raised me and my dad , and when he passed me and him had a bigger gap between us than ever but we bonded over fond memories of him and knowing im not alone , not only in missing him but having loved him, made all the difference .

You might find a strong urge to close yourself off, or lock yourself in your room for days, but now more then ever lean on you’re friends/support system for help, it’ll make all the difference in the world

Health habits make for easier grief. If you have a routine keep it. Drink enough water, eat your favorite foods and sleeeeeeeeeep. Use your hobbies as coping skills to distract you, if you need to wallow let yourself. Take it day by day and remember it’s not safe to cry while driving, but it’s a useful skill to develop.

Honestly. It's the worst thing to go through. I'm only just now getting to mourn my grandfather after 4 3 years. I believe that grief has no expiration date. Everyone grieves differently, and if anyone tells you differently, they are lying. I think if the good things. The good memories. I tell those memories to people that didn't know the person. I talk to the deceased as well. I tell my grandfather about my day. I talk to my best friend when I read a good book or when something big happens in my life. Go to the funeral/wake/celebration of life. Closure is hard to come by, but that helps. I wish I could tell you that it stops hurting. It really doesn't. It just changes. It goes from the horrifying pain to an ache. You are strong and capable. You can do this.

I’ve been dealing with death of a loved one a lot - most recently been my sister a little over a year ago. It does get easier, trust me. Just take one day at a time, and there’s not a timeline to heal. You don’t have to be over it, in fact you never really get over death. Talk about it with family, friends, etc. get a therapist if you don’t already have one.

I think, in so many ways, we all handle it differently. I lost my mom when I was 10 (or family dog, who my parents adopted before they had me died a few days later), surrogate grandpa 2 years later, and a family friend that was like a second father when I was 24. I’ve also lost 3 uncles so far, although our relationship is much less close. For each loss, my process has been different. And I find the healing is much more complex and long-term for those who are exceptionally close to you. What I wish someone told me when I lost my mom is that there isn’t a timeline for healing. You may meet people who don’t understand that and who think you’re supposed to “be over it” so you can get on with your life. But the reality is that you can have a life—a fulfilling one—while still honoring their memory and recognizing your hurt. In my opinion, the best thing you can do is talk about it. Talk about it with your family, a therapist, and your trusted friends. Set up positive reminders and celebrations of their life (ex: have their favorite food or go to their favorite place on their birthday). In my experience, it’s been so much harder healing every time I’ve surprised or ignored my feelings about a loss. It’s been 20 years since my mom died and it still comes up in my therapy conversations. I still sometimes pull up her obituary and go out of my way to do things that remind me of her. Her death is the one that was rarely talked about, so I’ve just now finally started to do some real, meaningful healing after being more open with the experience with my therapist. I think you can save yourself years of time by just being honest with yourself about what you need, how you’re feeling, and what you would like as support. Also, although I know you’ve heard it from many people by now, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I promise there’s a light at the end of the tunnel, but please remember in the meantime that grief and sadness are not bad things.

I can't say for a family member because all the ones I have lost, I was under the age of 10 so I don't really remember them much. But I did lose a good friend of mine in high school because she couldn't keep fighting against life anymore.... so I took that one pretty hard. Honestly, there were a lot of nights I stayed up crying and talking to her as if she was with me. It helped me cope with the fact that she was gone. Another thing that helped was talking to other friends and family members of mine. They would let me sit and talk or cry on their shoulder. And another thing, I think the thing that has helped the most over the years on the days when I still miss her, is to look on her Facebook and look through photos, memories, etc. Anything to help me remember the moments I spent with her and that I wasn't the only one who missed her. Helped me, and still helps me, feel not so alone in that battle.

I work in healthcare and deal w death all the time. my biggest advice for someone losing a loved one has always been think ab how honored you are to be part of that persons life in such a big way! they love you soooo much. and everyday they’re gonna show up, in their favorite color, their favorite food, or someone will say that silly saying they say wayyy too much! it won’t come within the first 6 months usually. bc they need time to rest. but it’ll come when you need it most! so sorry to hear ab your loved one passing! :(