Coping with splitting in BPD: Need advice

i absolutely relate to this!! my romantic partner is also my FP and i struggle with this as well. usually, when i start splitting, i want someone to Know that i’m upset, usually my FP. and i want them to know it’s their fault and make them feel bad. usually, instead of contacting them or talking to them, i acknowledge the split and take some time to give myself space and cool down, while typing all of my thoughts into a notes document. then i throw myself into a distraction for a while, which usually quickly diverts my attention, and when i go back to what i typed before, it usually seems ridiculous after the heated moment has ended. tldr, its important to Acknowledge the splitting and let your partner Know about the split before allowing yourself space to process those feelings. good luck friend!