Advice for Dealing with Abusive Alters in DID

upon getting to learn further about people similar to me I've found I can give some advice for those seeking. I've been on this journey my lonesome so sorry for improper terms(I've tried reading it all and still getting through it) but it seems systems with an abusive alter are common? those struggling with a terrible alter. been there and I won't lie. it took me most of my life to finally be somewhat okay. if you want to get better, it's going to take your life and you might as well plan on signing your soul away to yourself. my piece of advice, the thing that helped me break pass the internal abuse, get closer to yourself. as close as possible. you may think you're already close enough I mean.. you are the you inside more than just your body. but try this. ask all your alters what's their favorite color and clothing style. if it comes easy youre already a step ahead. but don't be discouraged if you can barely settle on an actual name(I went through a few). it's more normal you struggle than find a way out. but this was my way out. just getting to know each other as much as possible. almost as if you're dating each other. try to make it fun and either quickly or within years you'll find the abuse simmers and dwindles to almost nothing. anyone still reading heres some physical examples to help define all this better: most my life I was just constantly insulted in every way everyday. we physically fought a lot(SH) and at times had actually struggled to control the body as two alters started violently fronting. it was highly stressful and so after finally realizing I wasn't a possessed demon, but a DID human being, I sat down with myself. as much as possible. and just talked to each other. the first few years I'll admit.. it was like talking to a bitchy wall. got jack out of it besides more insults to my psyche. I didn't stop tho and persistenting started to calm everyone. what boosted us being more in harmony was sitting down for days and Journaling everything. whoever was fronting most wrote everything about themselves. and I read it over and over until I could physically imagine my alters separately. doing this made it so being closer really was like a relationship. the more we knew of each other the more we loved one another and thus, insults to each other felt worse than in the past I've successfully dwindled my prosecutor and I think if everyone took the journey they'd feel so much better. accepted. whole. we can function just as good or even better than normal people we just have a bit more steps to take. but we all got this. we're all still living yea? I hope to anyone struggling with abusive alters can find equilibrium. it's possible 🥰. anyone hungry for more I've been trying to blog my experiences the last years. I'll link it somewhere(u can see our alters and meet em personally there.)