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Recovering from an Abusive Relationship: Finding Myself Again

UnrisenPhoenix

632d

I've been in a very abusive relationship for 8 years (mental, emotional, financial and sexual). I was just able to get out within the last couple days and I forget who I was before I went into it. I feel alone and like every time I try to move forward, I get knocked down. I don't have much of a support system, due to isolation and I'm not really sure even how to have a normal conversation that doesn't end in a fight.

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    • cali_livvy

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      Good job for leaving it! It will be a process and take time to unlearn your behaviors but hang in there. You should take time alone. I regretted not taking enough time to myself and kept repeating trauma bonds and the same toxic vicious cycle. Find things you like to do and try to have hobbies to keep you busy. Also good to journal and do “shadow” work - figure out your behaviors and triggers and why it happens. Also if you can, get a support system or find a group of people who went through similar things. I found Facebook helpful to connect with others who went through the same thing! Keep moving, you will be ok! 💕 🙏

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    • MaryC

      631d

      First, congratulations. Second, take your time in rediscovering yourself. Relationships with family & old friends will heal over time. Now that they know you are taking steps to improve your life in sure they will be supportive.

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    • UnrisenPhoenix

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      I'm not really sure how to go about shadow work. I've read prompts but whenever I try to actually journal, I feel like I can't. I've had my privacy invaded so many times that I never write anything down now. How do y'all do your shadow work?

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      • Vetti

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        @UnrisenPhoenix my very first step with shadow work was ho'oponopono. It's about forgiving yourself and loving yourself. You don't have to forgive other people for wronging you.. but you do have to forgive yourself for allowing it to change you or disturb your peace

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    • Vetti

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      I've been going through shadow work while in a newly (different kind of abusive) relationship. I want out, so desperately to get away cos I'm struggling! I made this profile today because of some serious public humiliation I just feel sick. The work I've manged to do has opened my mind so much, realizing I can say no, that It's not normal for someone to lose their mind when told no .. i found so much of me i had completely forgot about and even now 4yrs later im still figuring things out about me.

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    • cali_livvy

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      Good job for leaving it! It will be a process and take time to unlearn your behaviors but hang in there. You should take time alone. I regretted not taking enough time to myself and kept repeating trauma bonds and the same toxic vicious cycle. Find things you like to do and try to have hobbies to keep you busy. Also good to journal and do “shadow” work - figure out your behaviors and triggers and why it happens. Also if you can, get a support system or find a group of people who went through similar things. I found Facebook helpful to connect with others who went through the same thing! Keep moving, you will be ok! 💕 🙏

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      • Heaven197987

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        @cali_livvy this is 100% I couldn't say it any better. Find who you are before, learn to love yourself so you'll be loved the right way

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        • cali_livvy

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          @Heaven197987 🙏 yes exactly! It will help you weed out what you like don’t like and develop enough self love and self knowing that you may be able to acknowledge and avoid the red flags. I honestly wished I learned this earlier, I could have avoided a lot of pain in life but therapy is what opened my eyes and put a name on certain behaviors and helped me understand red flags and that it’s not my fault.

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