Nuna

319d

How do you handle splitting and FP??

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

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  • Sisssssyyy

    317d

    My weakness is my FP how do you guys get unattached?

  • anditwon

    303d

    Oof, I'm still trying to figure that out for myself 😬. I struggle massively with splitting on my FPs. I have to keep reminding myself that I can't put all my trust in people I love, because I hold onto so many expectations from them. Which is also why I feel massively let down when I feel betrayed in my splitting. It's still something I don't know how not to do, to not put people on a pedestal when I feel like they can be a "savior" for me and give me the validation I crave. I feel you on this, and I wish I knew how to help the both of us in this. Much love to you in your journey with this❤️. I think it's important to realize that we are like this because we never had the validation we desperately needed in the past. So we seek that in others. I hope we can both one day be at a place where we don't need others the way we do as people with BPD. ❤

  • Sisssssyyy

    265d

    Wow that’s exactly how I feel about my FP and the worst is that we mess around and I’m dying for him to be my bf

  • OuchiePrincess

    264d

    Idk if this helps but I made a rule where I can’t split unless I’m protecting myself from life-threatening danger. I was at a point once with 5 different splits and was in danger of making more, when my current partner at the time told me No! You have all the parts you need to get by! This is not for fun! This is not to become someone’s ideal person! This is a coping mechanism and it’s not always a good one! Ironically enough, I was splitting in response to my toxic partner. When I removed myself from the bad situation (and sought out therapy) I started reintegrating.

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