Struggling with Postpartum Health and Job Expectations

you are so strong for dealing with all of this while raising a child!! it seems like your partner doesn’t understand how difficult taking care of a baby is. so many parents feel like they can barely handle a baby while totally healthy and not dealing with the additional illnesses you are. I can only imagine what a toll it’s taking on you. Please know you are absolutely not spoiled—staying home with a baby all day, especially while ill, is absolutely no vacation. I think your partner needs to learn how much work you’re doing and how much your body is going through. I don’t know how much they contribute, but maybe they can help with taking care of the baby some more so you have some time to rest? you definitely deserve a break and some time to recover. couples therapy might be really helpful for communicating all of this with your partner. I think if your partner can understand what you’re dealing with they might be more likely to (a) help with the baby so you can rest (b) be more supportive of you and (c) stop pushing you to get a job when you’re already contributing so much to your family. it might also be helpful to get a babysitter/childcare so you have some time to rest. if you can’t afford to pay for it, try looking online for mutual aid groups near you—a lot of them offer free childcare, as well as free grocery deliveries and other services for people who need it, some of which may help lighten your load. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this and so sorry that you don’t have the support you deserve. all of us here believe you, believe in you, and are rooting for you! sending love <3