Dealing with Self-Sabotage in Borderline Personality Disorder

fear of abandonment is my main motivator to not sabotaging my relationships. I'm also autistic so making friends is really hard for me. I agree w eren2273, taking breaks and being up front when you need is a lot of help. you can say things like "I'm getting heated right now and I want to step back to recollect myself." or "I need alone time right now but I want to know you're still available when I'm ready. can I message you in 20 minutes(/however long you need) when I'm feeling better?" Also, when you're in a positive mood, try sitting down with the person(s) you want to communicate with and explain the basic attributes of BPD and what support you need

Step back and take a break. It's hard to resist the urge to self-sabotage but you can do it. Take a break long enough for you to feel better