Struggling with Self-Care: Need Advice

Keep your goal and plans simple and measurable. Say you want to eat better. Could you do one or two meals a week where you eat better. Or maybe finding healthy snacks for a day. Then build from there. Maybe if you wanted to exercise - what does that mean to you. Could you walk a half of a block once a week or however often you could commit to it. Could you maybe take the stairs instead of an elevator? Could you jump rope? Set a goal and make it attainable and measurable. If you try to go too much it may feel like a fail. If you go small and build up it will be a win. The wins propel you forward. For me I have been diagnosed with congestive heart failure. So I just got cleared to start exercising. Right now walking out to the end of our driveway to get the mail is a lot. It is my goal to do this each day. My bigger goal is to be able to walk to the end of my block. I’m taking stuff slowly because my body can’t do much without being winded Hope this helps a little to give you some ideas.

I'll just throw out some things that were helpful to me, maybe you'll find something here helpful. I know building new habits is hard, but remember a 1% change has a pretty big change over time. Also remember that anything you learn will never go away, so if you start building one good habit, you can always come back to it and keep trying to do it and it'll grow easier and stronger the more you get used to it. I guess what I'm trying to say is false starts aren't a waste of energy, so if you try and "fail", remember that you're still learning and it will be valuable to you next time you try. My solution to overeating unhealthy foods is to exercise all my self control in the store, because once the food comes home I have to have self control all the time and I eventually give in. Also i don't bake stuff at home, because I'll end up with so much baked goods and then I'll end up eating so much of that stuff. (I say it as if I never do bake thing, but it still happens.) If I'm craving something unhealthy, and I don't have the self control to just not buy it, then I'll buy a package that only has a serving or two, so I know I won't eat as much. Instead of trying to just totally replace my meals with completely healthy things, I'll try to make sure I have some veggies with my meal. At least once a day at first, and that can make it easier to add more to other meals later. I think the biggest thing thay helps me is to stop thinking in all-or-nothing terms. Small changes can have bigger impacts than you think, long term and even short term. I like to get ideas and tidbits of advice from the internet and see what sticks and works for me. Youtube videos are pretty easy to consume, but I'll read articles and skim books for ideas. Everyone is different at the end of the day, so while these thing may be helpful to me, something else might be helpful to you. I hope there's something in there you find helpful though.

I had to have a serious talk with my doctor because I was gaining so much weight I was on the verge of becoming diabetic and I had to start taking supplements for a lot of things because I wasn't getting what I needed. So yes if possible talk to a professional! My doctor gave me seriously helpful tips and even got me started on weight watchers and it's worked so far. It honestly helps to just talk to someone who knows what they're doing! But good luck friend I know how hard it is and I hope you can find the motivation and help you want