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decj90

754d

I am struggling with motivating myself to eat. I am what the doctors consider obese. Doctors and society have been reaming on me to lose weight my whole life. I only eat once a day, usually at the end of the day. And, even though I am barely putting anything in the weight won't budge. I work a super demanding job and often don't have time to take care of my needs. What has helped you to eat normal?

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    • Soskae

      753d

      GET YOUR THYROID LEVELS CHECKED! I was 250 pounds in middle school, doing intense sports and only eating one 200 calorie meal everyday and throwing up almost daily and I STILL continued to gain weight. I got all the way up to 333 pounds (no lie just a coincidence) and after finally taking thyroid medication (because I can’t make 2/3 thyroid hormones) and vitamin d and b (severe deficiency from long term food deprivation) my weight is trending down and my calorie intake is up. I feel so much better because I’m actually getting all of my nutrients that my body needs to function and my life is over all better.

    • Sherwood

      753d

      i would suggest talking to a nutritionist and getting a plan for eating and exercise tailored to you. my friend was under eating to try to lose weight and it actually caused her to gain weight and struggle more in the future. the most important thing is being healthy and kind to your body and mind, if you’re eating healthy and exercising to what your body needs and you’re still overweight, then that’s what your body wants and how it’s happy, and it’s not shameful or bad in any way. i know people can be really shitty about body types but all are good and deserving of being treated kindly <3

    • Soskae

      753d

      GET YOUR THYROID LEVELS CHECKED! I was 250 pounds in middle school, doing intense sports and only eating one 200 calorie meal everyday and throwing up almost daily and I STILL continued to gain weight. I got all the way up to 333 pounds (no lie just a coincidence) and after finally taking thyroid medication (because I can’t make 2/3 thyroid hormones) and vitamin d and b (severe deficiency from long term food deprivation) my weight is trending down and my calorie intake is up. I feel so much better because I’m actually getting all of my nutrients that my body needs to function and my life is over all better.

    • iamnotabear

      753d

      I know it's easy for us to get lost in the fear of weight gain/obsession over the inability to control our weight and body size but I just want to remind you how important YOU are. Your weight is not good nor is it bad it just is, and some people's bodies are designed to hold onto weight more than others. Medications can also affect your ability to gain or lose weight. And if youve been struggling with disordered eating for that long it's likely your metabolism is struggling and it could take a long time for that to change even with the suggestions people have made. I just want you to know that you are not just the number you see on the scale. Being overweight doesn't affect your worth, your dignity or your right to exist and be happy. You deserve to feel happy in your body, whatever weight it is. The most important step to establishing a healthier relationship with food, which is what it sounds like to me that you're asking about, is to let go of the scale. It's easier said than done but so important to tie your worth to who YOU are. What are your skills? Your hobbies? What do you like? What brings you joy? What do you do for work? Those are the things that make up who you are, being in a bigger body doesn't define you. And frankly BMI is openly acknowledged by most dieticians and doctors as a bullshit method of determining health. While weight, higher or lower, can contribute to other health problems, being a bigger person doesn't inherently make you unhealthy.

    • FutureNurse

      754d

      Your body actually puts on more fat if you don’t eat. Your body realizes it’s not getting the nutrients it needs, and it starts storing everything it does get as fat cells because fat cells can be used for energy when there’s no glucose from food. I mean yes eventually the body uses all that fat, and that leads to a lot more physical problems with the heart and other things. I know what it’s like to go to doctors and just be told to lose weight. Diet and exercise. Exercise and diet. It’s frustrating and not as easy as they make it seem. Our bodies are all different. Sometimes diet and exercise don’t do anything to help us lose weight. I know you said you don’t want to go to a doctor, but there are specialized doctors for weight loss. I’m going to one on April 6th. These doctors look at more than just the physical weight. They take genetics, metabolism, and a lot of other things into account when assisting you in loosing weight. They might put you on meds if needed. As someone who’s been on so many diets and exercise programs that don’t work, I’m excited to see if there’s something out there that does work. I also understand how much being told your obese makes your self esteem worse and mental health worse. I have a couple other ideas and tricks to remember to eat or make eating easier on the job if you want.

    • Faye69

      754d

      Other than what has already been said the only advise I can offer is do not skip breakfast. Skipping breakfast can cause to gain more weight rather than loose it. Always eat a healthy breakfast even if it's something small

    • decj90

      754d

      I feel as though I have an unspecified eating disorder. I have been eating this way since I was 12, when I was first told I was fat. I am having difficulties with making myself eat throughout the day. Even though I can feel the hunger, I will purposely wait until I absolutely can not bear the pain any longer and then will eat. I will often be awake for 8 - 12 hours before I eat anything. I will not go to the doctors because they just keep telling me to lose weight by diet and exercise; both are things I do to the extreme, but I am still obese. I know that I need to eat throughout the day and what to eat. I just don't know how to make myself do it, and then sometimes I can not afford to eat.

    • Bijoux_bean22

      754d

      Talk to a dr! 🤗 they are best suited to help you manage weight goals without developing an eating disorder. I did not ask for help and now have an eating disorder. I was trying to gain weight and now I worry that I won’t be able to stop. I wish there were an easier answer or that I could help more, but that is all I have.

    • laurenW

      754d

      Try not to skip meals...eat 5 small meals a day

    • JustRachelle

      754d

      Oh and no sugar.. if you eat fruit you’ll get the right amount of natural sugar from the fruit you eat… drink a good amount of water too.

    • JustRachelle

      754d

      I haven’t had to personally but I have helped others on their weight loss journey. Eat smaller portions throughout the day… it need to be healthy meals.. for instance.. breakfast could be a cup of fruit & yogurt. Lunch a salad with fruit… snack could be trail mix… dinner could be a piece of bake chicken and mixed vegetables. (More vegetables less chicken) Don’t eat after 6pm and make sure you get in loads of exercise.. cardio exercises!

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