My boyfriend and I got in a fight about me going off on him sometimes. Nothing mean just not kindly worded. I know this isn't okay and him bringing this up made me a lot more self aware. The thing is he told me if it happens one more time he is going to breakup with me. I tried to explain to him that I'm actively working on it and I promised to try my hardest. It just felt dishonest to tell him it wouldn't ever happen again. I tried to explain to him that I'm going to get better I just need time. He said he wouldn't give me time. I don't know what to do.
Then he's not for you. Someone who loves you will put up with all ur bullshit no matter what. Unfortunately. I'm not saying that you are right or he is right but that is something we humans have done for ages... Stay with someone we shouldnt etc. If he leaves, he's not ur soulmate. I'm a counselor. Sorry to say it short and to the point but idk how much I can type on here
My partner helps me deal with my bpd and usually when I go off on them, they would understand I’m going through something. Your boyfriend needs to understand that you have feelings too with or without bpd, he should care for you after the argument is over and not give you limited time to change
Both my partner and I have BPD and this results in a lot of back and forth “breakups” and “one last chances.” Both parties just need to come from the same place of understanding that things take time to get better. Sometimes you have to actively CHOOSE to love one another and in doing so, the relationship is strengthened. It’s really really tough but I wish you luck. Hang in there.
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My boyfriend and I got in a fight about me going off on him sometimes. Nothing mean just not kindly worded. I know this isn't okay and him bringing this up made me a lot more self aware. The thing is he told me if it happens one more time he is going to breakup with me. I tried to explain to him that I'm actively working on it and I promised to try my hardest. It just felt dishonest to tell him it wouldn't ever happen again. I tried to explain to him that I'm going to get better I just need time. He said he wouldn't give me time. I don't know what to do.
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