Unfairness in College Scholarships

I’m looking into colleges and I was upset because there was a scholarship for clinically overweight people that was thousands more than for someone with Spina Bifida. My boyfriend told me “well no offense but they’re expected to live longer than you and most people with it are wheelchair bound and have some sort of mental disability so they’re not really expected to go to college.” This just really hurt me and I feel like it’s pretty ableist to say. I just wanted to vent and see if anyone else can relate to this feeling of inadequacy. Certain things like that just trigger my brain to think about the unfairness of it all and it’s hard to handle on my own.