Same with me but I'm still trying to understand it

You should be more direct when you get a comment like that...like hey if wasn't "that bad" then how come I have triggers and flashbacks and so on. Trauma is trauma. Stand your ground. How are you supposed to have a good experience with something that altered your thinking 🤔🤔 there's no way possible that I could go back to that situation and find "good" but then again I don't know your story...basically I'm saying noone can tell you how to deal with your trauma...and you should let them kindly know that