Tips for Staying Focused in Verbal Conversations

I cut my wife off all the time, even friends and family. I type it on my phone or send a message while they talk. They understand that I'm still listening, it's just I have a thought that needs to be focused on after the convo and I will forget it in about two seconds. My mom is also the same exact way, she keeps a notepad next to her at all times or just types it on her phone in a notepad app.

I think the most helpful thing you can do is describe what’s happening to ur bf and why you interrupt him. Then the next time u want to say something while he’s talking maybe say “can I say something” and he’ll say sure or one sec lemme finish this thought. I’m sure he’ll understand that you’re not purposely trying to be rude or anything

I can totally relate. I feel like if I don’t say it then, then I will forget. I started writing everything down. I think it helps to “solidify” the thought in my mind. So later I most likely will remember it, because lord knows I’ll lose that piece of paper I wrote it on, but I might still remember what I wrote on it, maybe, lol.

Wow this used to describe me to the T. Meditation has helped me. Learning to keep myself calm and focusing on listening during conversations slows everything down.

I hold out my pinky and think really hard on the thought so i literally hold on to whatever off topic comment i had.

I have read that people with ADHD have less to use when it comes to working memory. Maybe explain that to him and ask for some understanding as far as your part goes, i stugfle with the very same thing. I understand how hard it is, idk if this helps or hurts but I always say "excuse me, i have a thought on that" or "remind me to ask you such and such" i personally have a lot of help from friends and family when it comes to reminding me about stuff. Also setting reminders on your phone is really great and you can color code them. I also read that it helps to have a "body double", another person in the room. It kind of keeps you accountable and productive, it works for me. I hope some of this book helps haha 😂

Write it down. Everything. I keep a tiny notebook and pen. Depending on the situation I have tried to do something that reminds me, like hold up a hand, it rarely works for me lol. It's a struggle for sure.