Tips for coping with the loss of a loved one

I do the same thing with the letters. I lost my dad, my best friend, then my last grandparent. His mom within a couple years of each other. I get what you're saying. If I speak about my dad I always cry and people only say sorry, I suppose because that's a part of life. But like you, I go to therapy and have made the decision on my own to write letters, at least a few times a year. I try to maintain giving him cards on his birthday and major holidays. I have some of his ashes and a memory box with many things inside that were his or remind me of him. So I write letters and all and put them inside the chest for him to read. If that makes sense. Lol. But it helps me feel as if we're still able to communicate and he knows I'll never forget him and how much I love him.