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pizza2

666d

I had a breakdown yesterday. I won't be able to see my therapist for over a month (I've had this problem before). My therapist only does in person appointments twice a week and patients are only allowed to schedule two appointments at a time. It's making me want to go to therapy the minimum visits I need to get medication (once a month). I realize in the moments and the aftermath of a breakdown I think illogically. I always wait to even think about acting on my thoughts till the next day and usually the next day I can see why those thoughts were illogical, but here I am a day later and I'm still not sure I want to continue with more than one visit a month. I don't know what to do.

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    • Beaut

      662d

      I go to Alanon meetings for a support group. They have zoomeetings and phone meetings. This has helped me more than therapists ever did and you have a great support group and make friends

    • Beaut

      662d

      I go to Alanon meetings for a support group. They have zoomeetings and phone meetings. This has helped me more than therapists ever did and you have a great support group and make friends

    • SunInAugust

      666d

      The thought isn't illogical. Your acting from your emotions and your emotions are always trying to protect you. The scheduling system is hard and frustrating so your emotions are protecting you from that. Than late when your less emotional you see a different option you could also take Be kind to yourself

    • Phroggi75

      666d

      It definitely sounds like it is time for a new therapist. Unfortunately, that means having to start from the beginning, but I think that sounds better than what you are dealing with. Your therapist should be helping you, not causing breakdowns. I switched therapist's a few months back and regret it tho. You may have to try a few before you find the one you are comfortable with. Good luck. šŸ‘

    • KeiXyr

      666d

      There's an app called BetterHelp that's for online therapy. It's insanely cheap for therapy, $260 a month, and you can message the therapist at any time, and schedule video chats. I haven't personally tried it yet because I'm broke but I've looked into it and it sounds really good.

      • pizza2

        665d

        @KeiXyr yeah I'm way too broke for that lol

        • Phroggi75

          665d

          @pizza2 there are other great apps that are way cheaper if online therapy is the way you want to go. There's no way I could commit to $260 a month.

      • Cece7

        666d

        @KeiXyr i used it when I needed therapy right away and couldnā€™t get it with the pandemic. I will say sometimes it is nice because it gives you someone to talk to instantly basically but the down side is I noticed a lot of the therapists werenā€™t really great and the conversations I had with them was not very deep. They also seem to all have a private practice they put as priority and use this as a secondary income which makes you less important as their in person clients. Plus one of my therapists randomly just disappeared on there after Iā€™d been seeing her for months and it was a very vital week for my therapy to occur after surgery and she was just gone. I ended up with a nice therapist toward the end but I felt she mostly was telling me just to get meds and not really working past they thought. Iā€™m sure there are plenty on there who are helpful but I went between a few different therapists and didnā€™t seem to have the best luck. I definitely found local therapists are more genuine and easy to grow with

    • cjness

      666d

      I think you should have meds and therapy separate.

    • Belugabear

      666d

      That sucks! Are you considering finding a new therapist? Iā€™ve had some who didnā€™t schedule often and just had to switch, but I also get how unfun that process is, between finding someone new and then getting to know them. Let me know if I can help at all, even if you just need to vent to someone!

      • pizza2

        666d

        @Belugabear it's hard. I have BPD and the attachment issues that come with that make it difficult for me to do anything. On the one hand I feel like I've been abandoned (logically I know that isn't true) and on the other I feel like I can't leave cause something bad will happen (again logically I know that isn't true). So I just feel stuck.

        • Belugabear

          666d

          @pizza2 I HATE the internal fight between feelings and logic. Thatā€™s half of what I work on with my therapist haha. But yeah itā€™s very hard. Iā€™m so sorry youā€™re going through this

    • jojojellybean

      666d

      I missed 3 appointments and my therapist and psych discharged me, meaning i dont have either anymore so just trying to get my meds so I don't off myself

    • Dancingthroughshadow

      666d

      Iā€™m here if you need to talk things through more

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