Struggling with Empathy and Recovery

So a bit of a long post, sorry!!! I just got out of a session with my dietitian and we seemed to make some progress to try to work on my getting back to a recovery mindset. I went down to talk to my mom about some treatment stuff and a little bit before that she had let me know that her best friend’s mother had past away. And I have this bad habit of shoving all of information like that out (and I’ve gotten very good at it, so I didn’t think about it when I went down to talk to her) after the conversation about my treatment stuff was over my mom started saying that I have “no empathy” and that I didn’t care about her feelings because I didn’t ask about how she was doing. And when I explained why I didn’t (which is because I had shoved that out of my mind) she was like “well you still should have asked” and now I feel like a sh*t daughter and want to punish myself by engaging in SH and ED behaviors. I feel like I can’t do this anymore!!