Struggling to Find Love: What Do I Do?

I'm almost a 21yr old woman with no romantic history at all. Not even a kiss. Which I'm fine with. I've never had a legitimate crush on someone where I felt safe enough to date them. And as soon as I became interested in dating I was already stuck in a fight for my life with my health conditions. For years there's been no viable treatment for any of it, just more diagnoses. I'm bedbound or housebound almost everyday. I can't take care of myself, sit up in bed, or hold a conversation most days. It's terrifying to think this level of disability could go on for a very long time. It's worth it to wait. I'd be overjoyed if I found someone by my 50's or 60's. That's still at least 10 years with that person. Being a parent probably won't work out for me anyways. Once you find the right person there's no regret for waiting for them. You'll make mistakes and enjoy it less if you try to set a deadline that life never set.

I was with first boyfriend till I was 19, I didn't start dating again till I was 24, because I'm chronically ill, I downloaded a dating app expecting to just troll.

Improving your own mental wellness goes a long way towards improving your relationships, too. For starters, you're more likely to see healthy options instead of being drawn to partners who treat you or themselves poorly. You don't have to figure it all out even, just small steps in a healthy directions does wonders.

Im 23 and I'm my second serious relationship. We live together and everything. You don't need to be "fixed" because you're not broken. You can find someone who will take you as you are and help you get through the rough spots. Just make sure you aren't reliant on them, because that's not healthy

i’m turning 22 this year and previous to feb 2022, i wasn’t in a relationship since 2015. i thought i was f*cked and i would die alone. you need to wait to find /the one/. someone who will communicate with you, who will laugh and cry with you. they’re not easy to find, believe me, i know. please be patient. best thing you can do right now is be you and focus on you, because one day that someone will see how uniquely you that you are and fall in love with that (:

✋ 23 and no relationships under my belt. I highkey recommend therapy, it's the only thing that helped me when I felt like I was broken

My husband and I didn't meet until our 30s and it was his first relationship. We have several friends now, in our late 30s, who still haven't been in a serious relationship. You are not alone and you are not doomed to be single!

My first relationship started at 28. It might help with general well-being if the perception of needing to be fixed goes. You're not broken ❤️ things can be better, but you're not broken. Before trauma therapy I used to think like this,I still have days, but it really doesn't serve any positive purpose to think I need to be fixed.

You're only 22. Work on yourself first. You need to make yourself the priority

22, you are so young!! Embrace it! My first relationship was 2.5 years and ended when I was 21 and I didn’t date for a while after. I found my partner now (and hopefully for life) when I was almost 24 and we also met online but we just clicked. You probably haven’t met anyone worth your time, and that person will emerge!! Stay hopeful and love yourself first. Also I wouldn’t discredit online dating but also meeting someone in person (even if you get introduced online) is when you really click and I recommend that. We can’t love each other thru phones! Best of luck, you are perfect the way you are 💕

there is no time limit, you're only 22, you have soooooo much time to meet someone!! and you definitely don't need to be "fixed" to be with someone. no one is ever quite "fixed", we're human and imperfect