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Shy_Skittles

530d

Okay, I’m at a loss. I was sexually assaulted by my male best friend. I didn’t say anything at the time because my ex sister in law came home claiming that sexual assault and that’s how she got pregnant with someone else’s child. However, they knew it was a lie, I didn’t want to bring mine up because I felt like they wouldn’t believe me either. HELP, my fiancés mom is now upset with me.

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    • Flowerchild1327

      530d

      First, I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. I know how it feels as I've been thru it myself (not by my best friend but my brother's friend), so you're not alone. Please, never feel like you are...no matter how bad it gets or how alone you feel remember you're not. Second, you need to say something. It's never ok to let them walk away. They could do it to someone else or to you again. If the first person doesn't believe you keep telling someone till they do. It's the only way to get him off the street and to get justice for yourself and whoever else he may have assaulted. I'm here if you want to talk on private message. *friendly hugs*

    • Roni

      528d

      I am so sorry for what happened. I'm not sure how to help because I didn't go through that after my sexual assault. I do know waiting doesn't change anything; I used to think it did because I waited two years. I think you should tell someone. It can be hard but believe it's not your fault. As hard as it is with your fiance's mom; you could think about confiding in your fiance. I will say do not do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Also, I am here and can just listen if you need.

    • Bluefire

      529d

      Think about it in the sense that you don't want him doing it to anyone else. I know how heartbroken it must be to have your best friend betray you like that, but for others and for your own mental health I believe you should tell someone, if not your family then the authorities of some kind. Please don't let it just keep festering inside of you 🥺💕

    • Rhoda

      529d

      I was assaulted by male friends more than once in my college days, and i never told anyone at that time. To be honest, it was a climate then, so the thought never even occurred to me that I had a right to speak up and advocate for myself. I will say that I wish I had done something then. I have learned in the years since how to speak up for myself and also how to accept what happened to me in the past. I can't lie and say it doesn't affect me to this day, because it does. But I've gotten much better and I've learned healthy coping skills for the tougher days. I strongly advise you to talk to a professional like a counselor or trauma therapist (if you're not already). Regarding your fiance's mother, there will always be people who don't understand and who react poorly to sexual assault. If they don't believe you, it says more about them than it does about you.

      • Rhoda

        529d

        @Rhoda Meant to say "it was a DIFFERENT climate"

    • Flowerchild1327

      530d

      First, I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. I know how it feels as I've been thru it myself (not by my best friend but my brother's friend), so you're not alone. Please, never feel like you are...no matter how bad it gets or how alone you feel remember you're not. Second, you need to say something. It's never ok to let them walk away. They could do it to someone else or to you again. If the first person doesn't believe you keep telling someone till they do. It's the only way to get him off the street and to get justice for yourself and whoever else he may have assaulted. I'm here if you want to talk on private message. *friendly hugs*

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