Setting Healthy Boundaries After Childhood Trauma

Just do it period think it then do it I know it’s hard but sooner or later you will get sick and tired of repeating the same behavior it’s at that point you will change

Identify the behaviors and trigger, practice CBT, and process the trauma with a therapist. Love you friend :)

I went through similar situations. I had to grow up to quickly when I was 12 to care for my single father who was dying. I never understood how to relax. I learned how to be the "perfect" daughter by always doing as I was told and never arguing. Great for my dad, horrible for relationships. I would blindly do whatever they said, so they could never say I didn't love them or didn't trust them. I became a major doormat... Even to family. After my father passed, his side of the family abused me mentally by telling me to, "Grow up and get over it.." Then when I tried to leave, I ended up in a physically/emotionally/sexually/spiritually abusive relationship.. The first step is to set boundaries with yourself. Make a list of what you want in friendships/relationships/family relationships. Then go through those people, who are around you. And if they contradict what you want then lower contact. And for relationships, being straight up that you come with work. You have issues with trust and respect. If they want to be with you, they will take it slow

Tell yourself you need to work on it every day because I understand how it is to self sabotage and honestly it's more of excepting you need to change more than just saying it