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LilyBell

752d

Do you know how to become more assertive and to have boundaries?

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    • skislope

      752d

      Hi! This is something that I really struggle with as well. I think the thing that has helped me the most recently has been to take meaningful time to figure out what you want your boundaries to be in a particular moment and listen to yourself and then be very clear about your boundaries to others. You NEVER have to explain why you need a particular boundary. (That last part is really hard sometimes)

    • someone22

      749d

      ive found it helpful in some situations to start by asking about their boundaries then establishing yours during the conversation. Finding examples of boundaries online and asking each other if they apply is another direct way. id say these methods work with the establishment of boundaries to roommates and romantic partners pretty well

    • MENTALLYBROKEN

      751d

      If you don't mind me inserting myself into this conversation I always find creating boundaries have been really hard for me but all of this list and you might be able to it's I understand it's hard for all of us first off establish boundaries say don't do this and stick to it if they do this follow out the correct punishment

    • LilyBell

      751d

      I would cut ties, but I live with them. This is the third time they've hurt me like this, I won't go back again. And it sounds like your daughter has a wonderful name 🥰

    • Meg83

      751d

      Hi ✋ right here. I'm a people pleaser. Well was... now at 38yrs old I don't even know who I am. Patience is gone, I'm trying to feel regulated, but I'm a mess. Boundaries take time to learn to build. And that everyone who acts like they have out best interests at heart don't always do. I tend to be trusting. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

      • LilyBell

        751d

        @Meg83 the thing is I know exactly what I want as boundaries. I can tell my husband all I want Abt them, but I can never hold true when someone crosses them. For instance I'm trying to say no more. Like I don't want to hang out with this really toxic person, I try to say no, and I can't I have to come up with excuses to not be around them.

        • Meg83

          751d

          @LilyBell and it takes practice. I'm a mess. I'm just a yr into this and I don't even have a lot of answers. I just know it takes time. I keep telling myself that. ♡ Lily is my daughter's name ♡♡

        • Meg83

          751d

          @LilyBell I completely cut ties. I closed my fb. I'm doing me. I'm making my life choices for me for once. You gotta break the hold they have on you. ♡

    • skislope

      752d

      Hi! This is something that I really struggle with as well. I think the thing that has helped me the most recently has been to take meaningful time to figure out what you want your boundaries to be in a particular moment and listen to yourself and then be very clear about your boundaries to others. You NEVER have to explain why you need a particular boundary. (That last part is really hard sometimes)

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