Rectal Bleeding for 5 Months - Should I Be Worried?

TW for bleeding and talk of rectal things I've had rectal bleeding for about 5 months now. It usually only happens when I have a bowel movement, but sometimes, I'll not have one, then when I stand up from the toilet, it looks like maybe a shot glass worth of blood was dumped in. I have cramps after it happens, but I've always assumed it's just anxiety Two doctors now have been trying to get me in to see a colorectal surgeon, but I keep losing providers. I'm wondering if I should suck it up and just pay the fee that comes with not getting a referral instead of going through the process of getting a new PCP caught up, followed by getting the referral and seeing the surgeon I've been diagnosed with hemorrhoids, so I've wondered if that causes the bleeding, but my flare-ups come with pain, and I'm not in pain every time I bleed. I just don't know if I should be worried. My last two doctors wanted to get me checked for IBD and polyps, and I know both can be pretty serious if left untreated. I'm hoping it's just hemorrhoids, but the longer this goes on, the more worried I get I also have bowel movements anywhere from 3-6 times a day. I used to be on fiber because my medications were constipating me, but I've been off of them for a couple weeks now. I've always had extremely frequent bowel movements, with some days even reaching up to 12-14. I've been told by some doctors that 3-6 is normal, and others have said it's abnormal and I may have IBD I guess I'm just confused and hoping someone else might have some advice?