The Power of Abusers: How They Control Our Lives

I completely understand how you feel. I remember what happened to me and when I was younger I couldn’t date anyone just because I felt like I was doing to them what my abuser did to me. I haven’t seen the abuser in 7 years and very few days go by that I don’t think about her and what happened.

I feel the exact same way. This has been one of the hardest things for me to work through and I still haven't had any luck. I haven't found a therapist who has anything to say other than to "forgive" them so that I can let it go. Nah, fuck that. Why should I have to be the bigger person and give them the gift of my forgiveness? I filed a police report against my abuser and now there's a case open against him and that has been my only sense of relief so far. Of course, that was one of the hardest things I've ever done and there's no guarantee that it'll go anywhere. But I totally feel you.