Feeling Overwhelmed as a Parent with Depression

I get overwhelmed a lot

That is true. A good way to look at it but I can't feel better about myself when all I feel is that I am drowning and failing horribly. I worry about others way more than my own being. It has been like this for quite a while. I got so used to be liking this that I don't have no energy to even think about doing for myself. I went a month ago and got my hair cut and bought a new outfit and felt guilty and it didn't even make me feel any better about myself. I give and do fo my children before I care for me. I realize maybe I am giving a feeling too much at times to my adult child and have recently talked to her about what needs to start happening in her life. I feel I need to hold my children's hand through life but in all honesty they need to be able to do things for themselves and on their own. So my husband (her stepdad) and I have been talking and she knows this, she decided college wasn't for her and has applied to a job but only this one job. We have held her accountable for a bill and $100 rent so that she can see what it is like on her own. She hasn't worked since December and any money she happens to get or make gets spent on unnecessary things instead of worrying about bills. Time to let go!! I believe YES!! IT IS TIME before it gets any worse

Wow you are doing great parenting by helping your daughter understand the importance to jobs and responsibilities. I still live with my parents and I’m not allowed to work. Every decision in my life has been made and helicoptered by my parents so I do have a lack of maturity. What helps me is listening to Alan watts. He has a lot of pieces that make me finally feel at peace. Another thing that helps me is knowing everyone has their own struggle. Every car you see on the street has their own story, same with every person you pass in a market. That helps reassure me that I’m not just the chosen one for depression