Paranoid about my boyfriend's whereabouts

I'm sorry you're going through this. I've been there before - a couple of times. It HURTS. It sucks. But you'll get through this. Unfortunately... You'll never get that trust back. Even if for a bit everything is good and you're happy. Then it'll happen again. You'll wonder where he is, who he is with. Im sorry to say but it probably will just get worse. If you can (I KNOW it's HARD) try to get out of it. It will never be the same - no matter how much you both can try. Once that trust is gone -- it's gone. Take it easy and take care of yourself!

Are the fights about the cheating or about different things? It sounds like you are both controlling each other in different ways. Which makes me think about… We learn how to treat people from the examples set by our caretakers and the people around us (even the tv we watch) when we are young and growing up. Did people fight and/or cheat in either of your homes growing up, and how did you see adults respond to it? I know this can be really personal so don’t feel like you have to share if you just want to think about it.

having been the other woman (I know, the guilt follows me every day dw), i will tell you for a fact that when hes talking about "being better" and "making it up to you" he's talking right out of his ass once a cheater always a cheater, and you tracking him will make him pull away more since he feels like you (justifiably) don't trust him staying with him is just unnecessary grief, the relationship will be miserable until it ends, and I'm so sorry this happened to you men ain't shit, and your wellbeing and mental health are worth so much more than whatever he can give you <3 <3

Cutting someone someone who is causing you harm and disruption to your sense of security and peace of mind is never the wrong decision to make. Your own thoughts and emotions matter more than his now that he chose to betray your trust. I hope whatever you choose to do is exclusively because that is what you want, and not because you feel like that's the right thing to do for him and what he wants. I'm sorry this happened to you and I wish you all the best ❤️

It’s hard to be in a relationship when you can’t trust your partner- I’ve got to say it doesn’t seem healthy to stay together. Actions speak louder than words- if he says he loves you those are words. If you are tracking his location and constantly paranoid that sucks for both of you and you deserve to be able to relax. I know it’s not as simple as that, as someone with a ton of anxiety who also overthinks. But are there other areas in your life you might enjoy paying more attention to- time with friends, time outside, doing an art project? It might be helpful to de-center your partner a little, to get more space to love each other. Have you heard of love bombing? There can be a cycle in relationships (there have been in most of mine)- we will have a honeymoon period, then fight a lot and hurtful things are said, then there’s a lot of apologies and promises to change from one or the other person. But the problem with this is that it’s a cycle, and it doesn’t stop. :(

Just leave him. I know it's not easy but if he does this to you then it's not worth the pain or making your mental health worse

I don't mean to sound rude and I hope I don't, but it sounds like you'd be better off without him. He cheated on you, that's very disloyal and the lack of trust in the relationship is causing a lot of problems. It would be best to leave move on in my opinion

I'm really sorry to hear about the paranoia. I don't know your particular situation, and I think it's honorable of you to want to fix the relationship after the infidelity, but I do wonder if the guy is worth all the paranoia that comes with worrying about his location and if the cheating will ever happen again. When my ex who cheated left me, it was sad and awful for a while, but the freedom of not worrying where they were was pretty nice after the sting started to go away. There's no perfect answer though, definitely. I hope you find some peace :)