My Mother Doesn't Support My Gender Transition

that can be more difficult since everyone is different. I think most importantly try to avoid questioning your stubbornness, you aren't wrong in this situation she is and she's the one allowing her refusal to listen to you and let go harmful stereotypes to harm your relationship so it's most definitely not on you to back down even if you should try to be as respectful as possible while trying to hash out miscommunication. While her perspective on this is an understandable one it's also a misinformed and sexist argument that attempts to strip you, and a lot of others, of bodily autonomy in the end. Usually when two people in an argument are both feeling attacked it helps to defuse the situation by making sure everyone is put on the same level and no one is making blanket or accusatory statements about the other person's part in the situation. (I.e instead of saying "your position is sexist and leaving room for excuses for men" or "you're hurting me by not listening" use I statements like "I find that reasoning that I can't become a good person because I am a man is the same reasoning that misogynistic men use to never get better as people." Or "I feel hurt and ignored because I cannot be myself.") As well as making sure she feels that she's being heard, make sure she knows that you understand where she's coming from but make a point to mention that you need her to understand your perspective and why it hurts you. You can also try to get her some informational print outs for the families of trans people from online if you think that could help. It also might help when shes talking about how its "easy" to be a man to point out that trans men are specifically targeted and oppressed by cis men (and women) specifically because they are men but in the "wrong" way so we also don't even really gain much privilege unless we spend our whole lives dedicated to living in stealth, which is frequently difficult and stressful. I don't know your mom so I don't know what will and won't work, and you could need some kind of 3rd party mediation like a counselor. But I hope she listens to you sooner rather than later, it's a shame she's putting so much strain on your relationship with her.

Wouldn't she want you to have it easier out here as a man? And being in that position of privilege gives you opportunities to help other men understand and to perhaps be better people in the feminist movement. There are also plenty of resources for parents of transgender children to help them understand. Just keep being who you are. Your mother loves you and she'll eventually have to accept you to continue to be in your life. It gets easier, trust me. <3

Hey! Your mother sounds kinda like a TERF!!! I would honestly show her some articles as well as talk to her a bit about what that means and how, even though she’s a feminist, her opinions are not that of feminist views and is language used to exclude and gatekeep people from the feminist movement. I could totally show u some vids/links that could explain this much better than me. Feel free to DM!