Can't Stand the Little Things in My Relationship

@TheOnlySneezles I understand what you mean. I'm gonna pm you privately because I'm in a similar scenario but don't wanna talk about it publicly I hope this is okay.

@TheOnlySneezles also he will not kill himself. Most people say that as a ploy to keep you trapped, knowing it's emotional manipulation. I've had plenty of men say it to me and they never did when I left. They're still living and thriving with their own misery. And even if he does kill himself, it's not your responsibility. His life is not your responsibility, it's his. Your life is your responsibility. I'm gonna be absolutely 1000% harsh on that. I cannot stand when people use suicide or self harm as a weapon against others. It's been used against me to try and trap me too many times. It's a hard no 100%.

@TheOnlySneezles it unfortunately might have to be a deal breaker for you if he refuses to fix these things. I understand depression affects people differently but if he's depressed he truly needs to get help for himself. And you can't be the sole reason he's living (I saw in your other comment), that's waaaay too much pressure on one person and expectation. He needs healthy coping skills and if he doesn't have other friends and refuses to get friends, he needs to find other means of happiness like hobbies or something. You can't be his sole happiness and this is coming from someone who HAS for many years made their partners their sole source of happiness and life source. Only in my last relationship did I see how much of a soul/energy sucking vampire that makes people. He needs to help himself so he can be happier and you two can be happier together. If not, you gotta think about your happiness too. Also bad hygiene can affect you. It's just unsanitary and a breeding ground for bacteria so it can cause infections for you even. He needs to take it serious.

@TheOnlySneezles Or you would start a conversation with: So you haven't seem to be taking care of yourself are you okay? Or Hey I don't really feel loved/appreciated in the relationship.

@TheOnlySneezles Okay that is kinda gross 😬. I would say if you can name more negatives than positives then there is a problem in the relationship. If you don't feel like there is anything is save in the relationship I'd end it. They don't seem to have hygiene so they really need to work on themselves. You can still love someone and still realize that the relationship isn't working anymore. You don't sound happy. Maybe they arnt either. If your ready put yourself first.