If you haven't tried taking to them about this issue, you should have a serious sit-down and figure it out. If this continues or has been talked about before, bring it up again. There are only so many times you can say/try to fix something before you start to hurt yourself. I had a relationship like that and it ended up becoming super toxic, once I ended it I felt a lot better and wasn't as paranoid about things. If you need anything, feel free to message me <:

It's not your job to be his parent. This is negatively affecting multiple areas of your life, and you deserve better.

I totally agree here. I've been in similar situations, talk to them. There has to be a give and take in relationships and it sounds like he's all take. Try and open and honest conversation and if that doesn't work? I'd recommend doing what's best for you. If it's ruining your mental health? I always leave. I try but when it gets to my breaking point, I leave. You deserve someone to spoil you. My guy and I fought a few days ago and I said some hurtful things but the difference from my past relationships and this one is he was never upset with me. He fought for me to at least hear him out and we talked. See when we fight? I never feel scared because he's totally calm. Never mad at me. Just makes me feel special and like I'm the most important person in the world. He constantly tells me how amazing I am and is there for me and I make sure he's happy too. We're equals. There for each other but one of us isn't doing everything. We both decide on everything important and talk out everything. No matter how hard. I get treated like royalty and that should be everyone's hexperience. I asked him to be patient with me because I'm new to this, he said of course and that he loves me. Complimented me. That's what you deserve too. Everyone deserves someone who makes them feel good and pushes them to be their best. Is great for their mental health instead of ruining it. He's pushing me to accomplish my goals and achieve my dreams in life and I'm helping him on tips to use his new degree when getting a job. That's real love. Mutual respect. Mutual friendship. Mutual trust. Mutual loyalty. Remember that. You matter. You are worth it and deserve something amazing. You deserve all that life has to offer. It's not your job to be his caregiver. It's your job to be his equal. I'd be different if let's say he taught you to cook and you taught him the gym but that doesn't mean doing everything. If he wants to cook or shop? He should learn himself. I've been where you are. I understand how you feel. Just remember your only responsibility is to yourself. If he wants to be better? That's on him. He has to put in the effort. You can't do it for him. Choose yourself. Love yourself. You deserve it.