Need to Vent: Leaving an Emotionally Abusive Relationship with Kids

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@cleigh I'm so sorry to hear what you and your children are going through. I think your message was very powerful and it takes courage to reach out for help. If I understand correctly, the main obstacle that keeps you from getting out from under the same roof as your kids' father, is that you're currently financially dependent on him. That without the support of your family or him helping to reverse the financial damages, you feel stuck. With all the abuse added, this would also make it extra bearing to focus on getting a job with the additional time it takes to finding a new place - while probably keeping much of this discreet. Sounds like you might have history with your parents, and for either good reasons or not, they are uncomfortable with you being unmedicated and jobless there. This doesn't mean you shouldn't, or can't, get out now. You have options and I recommend starting with the National Domestic Violence Hotline +1 (800) 799-7233. They will help point you to resources in your area. And if the father is physically abusive...you have to get out now. Not to wait a moment on that call. If not physically abusive, but worried about the possibility upon moving out... It's okay to call the police, even to act as a peace officers at the time of your leave. But start the the hotline and there's likely to be more hotlines in your local city/county that can help listen and provide advice. You can do this.

And you will be okay as well

You go to income based housing, and pay rent of almost nothing for an apartment worth almost nothing but in a complex full of people who understand you. You go to DHS and apply for food stamps, families first, and government insurance. You consider the possibility of an ssi case based off your diagnoses, maybe discuss it with a lawyer. When I lived in income based housing, my neighbor paid $12 a month when she reported no job or child support. It's about a six month waiting list in my area, but if you have someone to vouch that you are or will soon be homeless, some properties will bump you up the list based on emergency need. A homeless shelter is a great place to get that type of referral. None of it sounds glamorous and it sounds like such a step down from staying with someone who has the means and a better place. But when you are between a rock and a hard place and have no say in your life, public housing can be the stepping stone that gets you somewhere where you are in full control. If you would like me to try and find you more specific resources, phone numbers, programs to apply for and whatnot, you can send me your zip code, county or city, and state. If you don't feel comfortable disclosing that and would just like someone to offer support, you are more than welcome in my inbox. You're not alone, and your babies will be just fine. I know that for a fact, because they have a mother who cares that they are. I know it doesn't feel like that's enough to make it so, but I have been where you are, and I know that once you're through it all, that yes, it absolutely is enough, and they absolutely will be okay. ❤️

Everything @BeccaJoy said. If you need help, just reach out. There are often emergency shelters that are not public knowledge that will help you.

Wow, that's so much to go through! I'm so sorry that your parents aren't being more supportive. There are shelters for women in need. If I was you I would look there first. They could probably also help you with finding a job. What did you used to do? I really hope you get out of the abusive relationship! I don't really have the answers but I care. Feel free to vent to me if needed. ❤️ Always happy to listen.