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Struggling with Feedback in Grad School

Remus87

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Hi Folks! Any else very sensitive when it comes to feedback? I’m in a doctoral program and really beat myself up when I get feedback. I keep thinking “why did I make that mistake, how could I be so stupid” and spiral downward. For example I recently got a 94 on a paper and my professor spent most of the feedback discussing what I did right but a few things I could work on…all I could think about was what I could have done better and how I was a failure. Is anyone else in grad school and figured out how to be better about this? It’s not that I think I’m perfect, more that I view myself as a failure for not doing things right

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    • Remus87

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      @PuckBee I just googled this and wow, it’s spot on. Thanks so much for putting a name to this! I will definitely talk to my therapist about this

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    • PuckBee

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      If you haven’t already, I’d definitely look up RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) a lot of folks who have ADHD experience this, and when I learned about it from my therapist it put so much into perspective for me, especially in this regard. If this is new info to you I hope it brings some clarity! 🖤

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      • Remus87

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        @PuckBee I just googled this and wow, it’s spot on. Thanks so much for putting a name to this! I will definitely talk to my therapist about this

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    • Jerimiah

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      You're a perfectionist like I was but I stopped doing that because there's no such thing as perfection you only can do your best and that's it do the do your best and that's all you need to do.

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    • Jerimiah

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      👍

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    • Jerimiah

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      Remus 87 your answer is just don't beat yourself up. 94 is an A. Congratulate instead tell yourself wow I get it

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      • Jerimiah

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        @Jerimiah Eliminate the negative and accentuate the positive. Say positive and you will get positive say negative and you'll get negative

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