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Midi

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Hey guys, never used this app before, but it looks good to have a discussion about how to get help :) So I got diagnosed about a year ago with ADHD, and I always just thought I was unreasonably sensitive, until I learned about RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), which a lot of people with ADHD can struggle with. Overtime I’ve learned to try not to take certain things to heart, and to not really take things seriously. But not everything can be a joke and eventually I have to have a serious conversation. And when those conversations don’t go well, it keeps me up at night, I puke for days, and often get severe suicidal thoughts. I know it’s all just in my head, but it’s so overwhelming and exhausting, and the last time it happened I was so close to ending my own life. I don’t want that to happen. Does anyone know how to cope well with RSD?

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    • Spud

      757d

      I still struggle with it too, but something that really helped me with questioning cognitive distortions is an app called mood tools, specifically its mood diary feature. You describe the event upsetting you, identify your emotions and their respective intensities, write out every single negative thought you are having about the issue, identify all possible cognitive distortions (ie black-and-white thinking, catastrophic thinking, minimization of the positive, mind reading, etc), and then you have to go through and challenge each an every negative thought you've written. Finally, you reevaluate how upset you are. It'll often take me from a 9/10 upset to a 7/10 upset, sometimes a 5/10, so it's not like a magic cure or anything. But getting in the process of both critically reviewing emotions and challenging negativity becomes a mental pattern if you do it often enough.

    • koukee

      757d

      there's a name for this???? my ADD brain is the worst about this. I genuinely thought it was a me thing!

      • swaghetti.girl

        757d

        @koukee rejection sensitive dysphoria!!

    • swaghetti.girl

      757d

      i am the exact same way, and the anxiety caused by my Vyvanse does not help.. i took Vyvanse for about 6 months 2 years ago and had to stop due to it amplifying my RSD to an extreme level, i also became extremely suicidal. it's comforting to know that people share a similar symptom makeup as me, because i have been invalidated when talking to my family about my RSD (ironic, right?). anyways, got off track there lol but i recently restarted my Vyvanse because i was hoping for a different outcome, but my anxiety and RSD are still worsening, so i am starting Lexapro tomorrow to try to manage it. if Lexapro helps with my RSD, then i will let you know!!! i don't have any solid advice, but Spud seemed to have a great suggestion which i will also be trying :)

      • Midi

        757d

        @swaghetti.girl thank you! I was previously on an medication to relieve anxiety and depression but it didn’t go well so I stopped taking it because it made my anxiety worse, and I’ve been trying to find little practices I can do to help rather than medication. However, if it doesn’t get better, I do plan on going back to medication. Thank you very much :))

    • Carliejane

      757d

      Honestly, I was diagnosed with ADHD extremely early in life (age 3, medicated by age 4). RSD is something I regularly struggle with, and while it isn’t easy, I try to use affirmations to remind myself I am not as bad as I think I am. Let’s be friends I would love to chat!

      • Midi

        757d

        @Carliejane that’s a good idea and sure!! :)

    • Spud

      757d

      I still struggle with it too, but something that really helped me with questioning cognitive distortions is an app called mood tools, specifically its mood diary feature. You describe the event upsetting you, identify your emotions and their respective intensities, write out every single negative thought you are having about the issue, identify all possible cognitive distortions (ie black-and-white thinking, catastrophic thinking, minimization of the positive, mind reading, etc), and then you have to go through and challenge each an every negative thought you've written. Finally, you reevaluate how upset you are. It'll often take me from a 9/10 upset to a 7/10 upset, sometimes a 5/10, so it's not like a magic cure or anything. But getting in the process of both critically reviewing emotions and challenging negativity becomes a mental pattern if you do it often enough.

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