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PureNumb

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How do I get over my husband cheating on me and still being with him and forgiving him? We go through and have been through alot. We only been married for a short time, but I really want this to work. he is very secretive with his phone, I have tried everything, even showing my phone to him too. He gets defensive about it and starts arguments and yelling. How do I resolve both issues? It has sent me in deeper depression than ever before.

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    • Gidgetmom

      720d

      Leave. I stayed 13 years after discovery. It doesn't truly get better. Once they know you will stay, they don't stop. I was married 25 years. What a waste of life. I wish I had known early. I could have left and never had children and had another life. His cheating doesn't just affect you, it affects those around you.

    • Gidgetmom

      720d

      Leave. I stayed 13 years after discovery. It doesn't truly get better. Once they know you will stay, they don't stop. I was married 25 years. What a waste of life. I wish I had known early. I could have left and never had children and had another life. His cheating doesn't just affect you, it affects those around you.

    • JustRachelle

      720d

      Cheat back or leave šŸ‘ŒšŸ½.. because you can do all these above and he still going to cheat if he wants to thatā€™s why heā€™s secretive.. he has secrets .. and thatā€™s just being honest.. so at this point cheat back or leave.. thereā€™s nothing you can do to make him treat you right he has to WANT too treat you rightā€¦ while you asking to look at that phone hell he can just go by another one that you donā€™t know about if he wants.. Get your lick back or just leave.

    • sh

      720d

      you deserve better . leave him

    • PureNumb

      720d

      Thank yall so much. I will try these things.ā™” thanks bunches

    • sospuddles

      720d

      Oh, and Iā€™m sorry this happened. You didnā€™t do anything wrong. šŸ’—

    • sospuddles

      720d

      This happened to me a few months ago. Nothing feels the same as before, but hereā€™s what I have learned. Try couples therapy. State demands and the consequences of his actions. Push through and prioritize what you need to move forward in your relationship. This way you are building a intimacy, patience, and strength with yourself. These are things you are going to need moving forward in a relationship together anyway! Take time alone, and journal letters of all the things you wish you could say to him, then destroy it. This practice actually helps me figure out what i need apart from my emotional processing.

    • zzzybeee

      720d

      i know this is just coming from a 17 year old girl. but i was in a relationship where i thought i had loved this man for about a year now, but he broke up with me bc i was too much to handle. a day after he hooked up with this person and ran back to me and fucked both me and someone else. and i forgave him. it was very stupid of me. i say talk to him, communication is key when it comes to relationships, and if he argues and gets into a fight with you that means heā€™s definitely hiding something. itā€™s not right. whatsoever. i canā€™t bring myself to leave the man i love bc trust me i want this to work also, but if he canā€™t carry the weight and he keeps hiding and moving onto other things heā€™s not the one for you. he just wants to use you, drain you emotionally really. and it sucks ass. iā€™ve had to deal with my situation for about a month now. i canā€™t sleep, eat, or even work properly. im so depressed and drained bc of it, i recommend trying to talk it over. if he doesnā€™t communicate or work right i say kick him out. lmao and see what he does. bc i could be wrong, heā€™s gonna call up one of his homegirls and stay there. im like 75% sure thatā€™s exactly whatā€™s gonna happen. and trust me itā€™s not a good feeling. i hate the feelings i get. and the shitty thing is even then the guy i like is moving into ANOTHER person right after him moving onto someone. the shit sucks. itā€™s not fun. i say the dude isnā€™t right for you

      • PureNumb

        720d

        @zzzybeee I'm so sorry you had this experience. I'll be praying for you sweetie.

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