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CoffeeAndDogs

573d

Most days I manage, but some days it hits me like a ton of bricks how much my illnesses have taken from me. No friends, no partner, no children. I feel like I'm going to be alone forever and that makes me really sad.

    • Boston23

      564d

      Hey girl, you are def not alone. I love your username btw can't go wrong with coffee and dogs 💕

      • CoffeeAndDogs

        563d

        @Boston23 Exactly! Dogs and coffee are the best for sure ❤️

        • Boston23

          562d

          @CoffeeAndDogs yes. Hope you are having an amazing day 💕

    • Soskae

      570d

      I felt the exact same way! You can look at my profile to see everything I have. (If you looked I’m sorry it took you 8 years to go through everything welcome to 2030 we’re glad to have you) I was so certain that because I can’t ever be independent, work full time, live past 60 or even walk more than 80 feet without wanting to die a little there was no way I’d ever enjoy the normal things able bodied people do. To some extent I won’t. You will never see me on a hike that’s longer than a mile and not completely flat because I could not do it in 24 hours. But in contrast to that I’m getting married in 3 days, moving in with my best friend, working part time at a place I love and parenting 2 dogs. Before this I had never lived anywhere without my parents, dated 2 people, hated everyday of college and had one friend who was my brother. Now I’m up to 4 friends (I’m great at managing social situations so I’m drowning in friends) that are totally aware of my disabilities and do adaptive things with me. Disabilities make a lot of things hard but I also think they make you a better person. Ultimately good people are drawn to other good people. We are so much better at sympathizing and being flexible and honest and vulnerable than other non medically challenged people. You will never meet a more patient person than a deaf one. You will never meet a more trusting person than a blind one. You will never meet a more honest person than a disabled one. It’s what we do. It’s sucks, it’s exhausting and expensive but we leave lip out character development way faster than these other fools. Once they catch up to us then things start to work out. Best of luck and know that you are 100% not alone in your feelings and struggles. We’re all rooting for you! ❤️❤️❤️

    • Sunshineseeker90

      570d

      @coffeeanddogs I feel this one hundred percent. ❤️ Right there with you friend. 😥🤝

    • Heartracer

      571d

      😥I hope you find what you are looking for and feel happy soon. It isn’t fun feeling alone . But know your not alone , a lot ppl out there feel the same . Also you never know how life can change . I hope this helps. I felt this way to and one day life change in a instant. I can’t say I’m always happy bc life with issue sucks and sometimes No matter how much love you have it can still be a bother to one self . But know you are wonderful . You’ll find your love 💕 don’t give up hope .

    • aries02

      571d

      i think a lot of us were severely impacted by the pandemic and are still dealing with loneliness. you’re definitely not alone in this. I was listening to a podcast the other day and he said the with the pandemic and social media like nobody actually has friends anymore. and everyone wants friends so don’t be afraid to just start a conversation w a stranger

      • CoffeeAndDogs

        571d

        @aries02 Honestly, that was a part of the pandemic that really bothered me. How quickly loneliness took a toll on them, when this has been my reality for years. I do try to engage with others but most simply can't relate to my life at all.

        • aries02

          571d

          @CoffeeAndDogs I’m not sure if you’ve been on here for long but it seems like a great place to meet people. There’s also tons of people on dating apps that are actually just looking for friends!

    • Katiekins

      571d

      @CoffeeAndDogs you are not alone on feeling this way love. I am a 31 year old female and feel the exact same way. I pray for your happiness, I pray for happiness for all of us!! And I pray that our dreams, such as having a family and life partner, do come true someday. Until then just know you’re not alone in your struggles, plenty of people like us here on this app hear you, and we’re are here for you to get through all these times together!!

      • CoffeeAndDogs

        571d

        @Katiekins Thank you so much ❤️

        • Katiekins

          564d

          @CoffeeAndDogs seriously, I meant every word. Don’t feel alone. And don’t forget you’re alive- you’re not a diagnosis. Good things will come your way, don’t let your sickness take away what’s due to your soul. I have faith you’re going to come through the tough times and find the things you want and deserve. Keep the faith, my friend

    • Seinajh

      573d

      I literally feel the exact same and that's why I got this app 😥

      • CoffeeAndDogs

        571d

        @Seinajh I tell myself all I can do is keep showing up and trying

    • MedicalAnomaly

      573d

      I definitely hear you. I’m so sorry you are feeling like this. I just want to encourage you by saying that after a life of loneliness, I do have a loving spouse who understands and accommodates every need I have relating to my health. The right person does exist, and it does take quite a bit of patience to find them. But you aren’t alone!! And even if you don’t find someone for you, just know that you are whole and worthy of love regardless of your relationship status. ❤️

      • CoffeeAndDogs

        573d

        @MedicalAnomaly Thank you! It is hard because I realize I'm getting older and the window on ever having kids is closing fast. I wish I had people to share my life with.

    • AKD

      573d

      Definitely. I am okay so many days, but then have a lot of days with grief.

    • JustRachelle

      573d

      Being chronically ill is hard and nobody understands unless they too are chronically ill. I have a husband (he is wonderful) and children (they are wonderful as well) but sometimes I still feel.. alone! Simply because they don’t understand. On top of that most of the time I feel like a burden although they assure me that I’m not.. I still feel like it.. being chronically ill sucks

      • CoffeeAndDogs

        573d

        @JustRachelle Yes, it can be difficult to feel connected even to those you love.

    • ChristinM

      573d

      I hear you, illness is lonely. I’m sorry you are going through this. You aren’t alone, even if it feels like it.

      • CoffeeAndDogs

        573d

        @ChristinM Thank you. Hoping it won't always be this way. But not sure how to change it either.

        • ChristinM

          573d

          @CoffeeAndDogs yeah it’s hard, better have no friends and work on your own self care than to be around careless people or those that only accept you when you are healthy. Do you have any support groups? What is the illness you are struggling with? I’ve had success with someone called NAET- www.NAET.com

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