Exploring My Sexuality and Gender Identity as an Autistic Person

It's actually theorized that autistic people are more likely to be queer (esp trans and/or nonbinary) than allistic people are. I, personally, am neutrois (which is similar to agender, I just say "my gender is nope" most of the time though), asexual, and grey-panromantic. Gender is weird, sex is off-putting to me, and even if I don't crush often, I can like people of any gender. I'm hella proud of who I am :D

I never came out as aro and I don't really have plans to, it would make explaining my past and current relationship a lot more difficult and I know at least some of my family would judge me. I've only ever felt Romantic attraction once, and some alterous attraction a few times leaning both romantic and platonic depending on the person, over all most of my attraction is either platonic or sexual. It doesn't change anything about my life, I'm still dating the person I'd be dating and I don't think my parents would think much of it if I stopped pursuing relationships in the unlikely event it doesn't work out for whatever reason. I'm pretty sure my brother is in a similar boat, he doesn't seek out or seem to want any kind of sexual or romantic relationship and hasn't really since high school and largely the only reason they question it is because he's also jobless and lives with our mom still, no one can tell if he's actually happy like this but relationship wise at least he seems to be. I guess sometimes it's easier just to live your life without really explaining it, and if it doesn't bother you I can't imagine any reason you should have to.

My birth gender is female, but while it doesn't feel right, it doesn't feel wrong either and no pronouns feel 100% correct. I recently found a term called "autigender" and it really made sense to me. I would suggest looking it up yourself if you're autistic and questioning your gender

I also now go by Keegan instead of my original name given to me at birth and I also go by they them pronouns

I definitely feel on that same page. I've always identified as bisexual in the beginning and came to terms with the fact that I was pansexual but the thing I struggled most with was my identity after spending time with some friends that are non-binary and figuring out that my boyfriend was non-binary a few months after dating him. It all kind of made sense to me and it made me feel like that's how I might identify. It made me feel more like myself