Dealing with Severe Osteoporosis and Regretting Avoiding Surgery

I just got my results back from my bone density scan, and it says I have severe osteoporosis. 😱 I’m a 34 year old man. And I’m pretty sure I know exactly how this happened. A year and a half ago, I had a spinal injury from lifting a couch. My PCP told me it was a minor injury that would heal on its own. He said surgery was an option, but it wasn’t necessary. So I decided not to get surgery. The pain began getting worse this year, so I went to see a spine doctor. He said the injury was worse than I thought and it healed badly, causing my spinal curvature. So he sent me to get this bone scan, which is how I found out about the osteoporosis. He also said if I’d gotten the surgery right after the injury, it would have been a pretty easy and noninvasive surgery. But now, if I want surgery, he’ll have to cut through my spine and ribs to realign it, and he’s afraid he’d make it worse, so he also advised no surgery. Honestly, I’m getting tired of hearing all these doctors tell me not to get surgery. That’s how I got into this shitty situation to begin with—by trying to avoid surgery. And it just gets worse. I think I might just need to get a new doctor. My PCP has a very “hands off” attitude. He things doing nothing is the best solution for everything. And clearly he was wrong. I also think I should get the surgery. After all, osteoporosis doesn’t get better on its own. I’m kind of pissed. Both at myself and at my doctors. Even my mom keeps pushing “no surgery.” 😑 Thoughts?