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How do you deal with Borderline rage episodes? My fiancé who means the world to me has a best friend who is a trigger for my rage episodes. I hate his best friend and when they spend time together i always blow up and get mean and aggressive. I don’t know how to cope with this rage I hate his friend so much but love my fiancé more than anything. Does anyone know how to cope with/regulate BPD rage episodes? I need help ASAP
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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
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@WiingNutt yeah that’s accurate
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As someone with BPD, I assume this comes from a place of jealousy and insecurity, fearing you are going to be abandoned. When you notice you're splitting or about to go off, I would remove yourself ASAP. Find a place to sit down and let all the emotions out. Maybe try screaming into a pillow. When you're able to, then try meditating and evaluating the facts. CBT techniques will really help here. Try focusing on your thoughts and evaluate them, try and notice any cognitive distortions. Do something that makes you happy. Then, when you're calmer, be open about how you feel in a calm way with your fiance. Tell him you need reassurance and whatever else you may need. I understand that when we rage, we do it to make ourselves bigger and feel heard because we're scared. Unfortunately, the wounded child in us fails to realize that this actually draws people away rather than closer. That's a very important part to remember. That's not me trying to say your feelings aren't valid by any means, but our abusive tendencies are not okay.
I use grounding techniques and if someone who I care about keeps me involved with someone who triggers mine. They have to make a decision as mental health is so important.
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Thank you
Remove yourself from the situation first. focus on facts and find things that bring you joy. It will fill your piggy bank of happy memories and give you a reserve to spend. ❤️
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"Use something to ground yourself to reality when you start feeling the rage coming on. Taking time to focus on something else for a sec can help simmer down that rage when it's coming. Also, try to use mindfulness & observe when you feel the anger coming on. Use wise mind to decide if your emotion is appropriate for the situation, & if it is effective. Visualization techniques work really well too. Additionally, taking a step back, vocalizing that you're upset and telling them that you need space can be helpful. Spend some time alone before you say something or do something you'll undoubtedly regret."
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