Struggling with BPD diagnosis, seeking coping strategies

@Hopalong like because it develops from trauma sometimes I get sad that I could of NOT had bpd if my family were different people (nicer and not abusive would if helped a tonne) or if I was able to judge friends better but I've found social stuff hard from autism forever But otherwise the fact it is able to be healed to a degree helps me Can't heal bipolar as that's a meds for life type deal so took comfort in the simple fact if I worked hard I'd slip up sure but I'd be better then I was last year :)