Struggling with BPD and Toxic Relationships

I definitely understand this. I'm autistic and ADHD and there are so many disorders with overlapping symptoms. It's so hard to get diagnosed too. I've just had doctors tell me to manage the symptoms and not worry about labeling.. but I want to know what the issue is you know?

I feel your pain I am an emotional wreck

there is so many traits that overlap between bipolar, autism, bpd and other things. you could definitely talk to a professional about it. i was dignosed with bpd and my whole life everyone thought i had it, it’s just hard to get a dignosis depending on your age and where you live. i was dignosed with bipolar when i was at rehab and i always felt i had something else. i understand how validating a dignosis can feel, but the medication and treatment for bipolar and bpd is very similar so you essentially don’t need a dignosis to get the help you need. before i was diagnosed with bpd i was already in dbt (dialectal behavioral therapy) which was actually designed to treat borderlines. but there is so many people in that therapy that don’t have bpd, or have similar traits but don’t have a dignosis. also there is no specific medication for bpd because it’s a personality disorder not a mood disorder. a lot of mood stabilizers and other meds that are meant for bipolar can also help with bpd. for example, i’m on lamictal to help with my bpd but technically it’s a mood stabilizer for bipolar disorder. i understand how upsetting being misdiagnosed or not being dignosed can feel, but ultimately it’s the treatment you get and the lifestyle you live that matters, not the word the doctor calls it.

And please feel free to ask any questions! I'll take all the help I can get