Conflicting Sensory Needs: How Can We Sleep Together?

I had/have this exact problem with my partner of two years. She is the ADHDer in this scenario and I am ASD. She needs the TV on to fall asleep, including volume. I was prescribed melatonin 5mg due to irregular sleeping patterns and this has tremendously helped us. I also invested in a Manta Sleep Mask (complete blackout) and Loop Quiet earbuds. She invested in a Hoom band, a headband with speakers on the sides which she connects to the TV so she can hear and see the TV before falling asleep, whereas I see and hear very little. We both compromised and are both content at present. I hope you get the relief you need, I know the frustration 💕. Prior to her getting the Hoom band, a hack we used in regards to the volume was connecting the TV to a speaker rather than having volume come directly from the TV. This enabled us to place the speaker (and sound) on her side of the bed only, significantly reducing the noise for me, especially with the addition of the earplugs. I rarely need to ask her to turn down hear headband.

My partner needs complete silence when he is sleeping whereas I prefer listening to stories before bed. I got him some silicone earplugs and he says they are great. Sometimes we sleep seperately if we need and it works for us! Or seperate blankets in same bed 👍

Hmm, well there's nothing wrong with sleeping separately if that's what's needed, but I get why you'd like to be together! You could sleep head to toe - so you'd still have the body warmth but there's a little more distance from the speaker. I also put my phone on the lowest volume then put it under my pillow with my head on it, to keep it quiet for my partner.

I used to have a pillow that had a speaker inside it. It wasn't too expensive either. If you've not tried that yet. I hope you find a solution soon.