Feeling Overworked and Underappreciated with Chronic Illness

Anyone else feel like their simultaneously doing too much and not enough? I do a lot of the house work because I'm housebound but not always bed bound and it feels like I exert myself way too much but there's always way more stuff to do. My partner does his best to reassure me that im doing enough but it seems to only come up when I feel like I needed to be carted off to the hospital because how over worked I made myself, it ends up making me feel like I have to almost die for the little bit of work I can do to matter sometimes. He also still tries to help me physically when I've worn myself out and I feel bad about complaining but I've been struggling to communicate how much it's effecting me to just about anyone it's really hard, especially since I know everyone in my house is trying their best as well and I don't want them to end up feeling the same way. I also end up feeling bad about it because I know part of it is my own issues coping with my decreasing ability and not really on them to help me with it, I just don't know what else to do. Anyone else relate or have advice?