Dealing with Trauma Responses in Relationships

I get anxious and completely manic when triggered. [CPTSD] from my current spouse. My response is to revert back to the way I felt when I experienced the trauma. I begin obsessively Facebook stalling, checking phone records, anything and everything. I tell myself that it is just a trauma response, but I can't control it and I can't stop it. The obsessive behavior is like an addiction. I get completely out of control and begin having irrational thoughts.