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How to Boost Your Self Esteem?

Crystal_Rose

707d

Anybody know of any good ways to boost your self esteem. I've been trying to give myself a few compliments a day and I still constantly judge myself. Im getting to be on the bigger side and I feel fat af. I don't necessarily want to start losing a crap ton of weight. I don't have the mental health right now to change my diet and to start exercising regularly, but god I really want to just be ok with my body, even if it is big. Any ideas?

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    • Unknow

      705d

      To start with, what part of the body do you like? Do you like the color of your eyes? Mine are blue! Do you have beautiful hair? Getting some exercise no matter how little it is can help us with depression. I have seen on a TLC channel that people go out the front door so many steps and turn around and come back in and eventually they go out further and further. The sun gives you vitamin d and you get to stretch out

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    • malks

      705d

      Exercise has helped me

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    • Magpi

      706d

      I love body neutrality as a start. Know that you exist and your body is doing what it can to move you through the world from one point to another, one moment to the next. Also self agrandizing jokes rather than self deprecating. When you are tempted to say "I'm an idiot" say "I'm clearly a genius!" Or "Wow butterfingers" say "I have the cat like grace and reflexi of a ninja!" You still get to be funny and defuse some of the tention that the shame and bad thoughts created for you but you are practicing being kind to yourself too.

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    • IndigoBro

      706d

      Personally I try distracting myself so I can avoid obsessing/ruminating over Low Self Esteem. Let yourself feel it sometimes but after awhile it’s good to remember to do something else, get your brain consumed by other stuff.

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      • IndigoBro

        706d

        @IndigoBro I think I had too many people trying to give advice about how to develop body positivity but that can be a big jump from hating yourself. It tends to feel fake, disingenuous. Better to work toward body neutrality. Perhaps practice to notice things in a neutral tone. My body is a body. It does things. My arms bend. My eyes see. My legs allow me to walk. Etc. so you don’t have to force yourself to remove negative thoughts, just add neutral ones too.

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    • BastBeloved

      707d

      I’m pretty sure along with my grocery list of problems I have body dysmorphia in there. I feel like I SHOULD like my body….I SHOULD see myself as attractive….I’m 27, 5’2” and as of this morning 109lbs….I hate my face, my boobies are too small, my butt will never have enough jiggle in the right places, and I have patches of thin gray hair all over my head from genetics & stress. I have extreme difficulty taking any compliments too, despite people telling me I’m cute or pretty or whatever they say….. My best advice is finding one tiny thing you like about yourself and EMPHASIZE it! For me, it was my hands. Silly I know but I always admired my moms hands growing up (her nails were always well groomed, not always painted but always nice and she wore the most beautiful rings and those hands could make the most wonderful meals or make crafts and do anything). I started figuring out how to grow my nails long, and I invested in some nail care stuff (since salons are $$ and I’d rather do it myself) - I also started decorating my hands with little rings and now I’m up to 6 on each hand. It’s stupid. It’s small. And yes, it’s not perfect (if I break a nail badly or lose a ring I get a small depressive episode)…. But it’s ONE damn thing I can say I like about myself and that’s something.

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      • Crystal_Rose

        706d

        @BastBeloved im 24, 5'3" and im going on 240 lbs 😓 my biggest things is im scared of seeing that number jeep going up. I get paranoid about how my boyfriend thinks of my weight, despite him saying im beautiful or pretty. I never feel good in outfits. But I also know dieting and losing weight is a lot of work. I also don't wanna change my diet because whats the point in eating if its never anything I like 😅 obviously i could eat better, ive added more fruits and veggies to my diet and im trying on lowering my quantity. Ive got a chart of exercises im still trying to get the ambition to do each day. Its just so hard. My other post describes how im in a run. it just adds up.

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        • Unknow

          705d

          @Crystal_Rose I saw your profile thing and it seems like you have bipolar or on medication for it. My husband is bipolar one and the medication or the illness itself causes him to crave junk food and he's not interested and healthy food but I try to give it to him anyway. Some medications causes people to gain weight so a person has to try even harder to maintain a certain way and try not to give in to bad habits. It's a very real struggle for my husband

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        • BastBeloved

          706d

          @Crystal_Rose do you work? If so a desk job or a physically active one? I worked a desk job for awhile and then when I switched to a job where I’m on my feet all day & I lost a lot of weight….if you work a desk job see if you can do some adaptive workspace stuff. Use an exercise ball vs a chair, use one of those under desk treadmills…this way you can do intermittent exercises throughout the day (way easier than a workout routine) That being said don’t be paranoid! Your partner loves you for you and remember we are conditioned as women to have crazy internalized standards for ourselves. If you are healthy and you feel like yourself in your own skin then you don’t need to change for anyone but yourself.

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    • livvie361

      707d

      As stupid as it sounds, try standing in the superhero pose a couple times a day. It's Said to help with confidence

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      • Crystal_Rose

        706d

        @livvie361 I got that from Greys Anatomy, but honestly it works :) I do it before work or when I get super busy.

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    • Musiclover22

      707d

      I have struggled a lot with my self image, still do just not as severely. When I started I had a hard time with the compliments. What I found is it didn’t help to just compliment and tell myself I needed to accept it. I had to fight the negative talk back I was doing. And if I was having a hard time accepting a compliment I would try smaller compliments. For example, if I was struggling with feeling like I was a bad person or a bad friend and couldn’t accept being a good person/friend I would tell myself that maybe I don’t feel like a good friend but I can accept that I’m not the worst friend in the world and provide myself examples of how that was true. I also didn’t notice I was improving my self esteem until there was a big difference, and that’s not to say that I don’t have days where this feels impossible. I tried to sum up quickly and could’ve gone into a lot more detail, feel free to message me if you want to talk more in depth

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    • bighead

      707d

      I'm 59 & I struggle with low self esteem EVERYDAY!!! It is draining!! I make myself get up out of bed....I TALK TO MYSELF OUT LOUD ALOT...LOL... I tell myself I CAN DO THIS DAY!! (even when I think I can't.) I have to focus on my DAY...like what I'll be doing off & on thru out the entire day !! It takes dedication to do this on a consistent DAILY VIGIL.. BUT this, plus plenty of rest & self kindness , should HELP... I'm here if ya need to talk more.

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