Struggling with My Anxious Attachment Style While Dating

I have an anxious / avoidant attachment style due to trauma as a young child (under 5). My therapist and I thought it may be time to start trying to date again. However I am also disabled at the moment (the dating thing came before the disability came into play). I’ve been talking for over a month with one man. And this is usually when things fall apart and they start loosing interest and fade away. The only way they stay interested is if I continue the conversation. And I want a two sided relationship. I really feel my anxious side kicking in and I’m afraid it’s happening again and the shoe is going drop. I hate feeling like this and I don’t know what to do to stop it. I feel like it makes me needy and he always has to reassure me. I hate it